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Outdoor shoes - on or off?

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Hithere Mon 20-Jun-22 14:01:28

It depends on the rules of the hosts

It is not rude to ask to remove them - it is more hygienic that way, regardless of the floor type you have

In all home I have been, I have been asked to remove them.

GrannyGravy13 Mon 20-Jun-22 13:52:56

I always take my shoes off when going to other peoples homes, and 99.9% of people who come to us take their shoes off.

MeowWow Mon 20-Jun-22 13:23:54

All my family remove shoes at the door and I always remove my shoes when entering someone else’s house. Shoes are dirty and that dirt gets transferred to carpets. At least I know my carpets and floors are clean when my DGC play around on the floors.

ShazzaKanazza Mon 20-Jun-22 13:17:57

People walk in our house and nearly always go to take their shoes off but we say no leave them on as we have hard floors. When we go to people houses we always take our shoes off unless told to keep them on.

NannyB2604 I wouldn’t dream of walking on your beige carpets with shoes on.

When we lived in our old house we had cream carpets and when people came in they saw shoes by the door so always took their shoes off but my brother never did and in the end my DH asked him too. I was embarrassed but it drove him mad that he never did.

NannyB2604 Mon 20-Jun-22 13:17:33

Thanks everyone, you've confirmed what I already do smile

mokryna Mon 20-Jun-22 13:15:18

I wear indoor shoes for medical reasons. I don’t ask adults to change but children I do. However, I have a pile of new slippers for adult guests if they want to change.
Personally, I don’t feel comfortable wearing my outdoor shoes on other peoples’ carpets. When I visit my friends in the country there is always the boot room to change into indoor shoes not slippers.

Georgesgran Mon 20-Jun-22 13:14:56

Think we’re all in unison so far - offer to, or take them off in other peoples’ houses, but not ask anyone to do it in our own.
DH used to stride across the hall and into the kitchen in his filthy boots for a cuppa after walking the dogs and say that he was only halfway through getting them all out, so no point in taking his boots off, as he’d have to put them back on again! Thankfully, we had hard floors and a steam mop!! It really was the only thing about him that wound me up!

Witzend Mon 20-Jun-22 13:13:01

This crops up regularly on here.

We never did it in my family (obviously unless shoes were very wet or muddy) and it’s never been a thing in this house.

I really don’t like having to take shoes off in anyone else’s house, but will do so if expected to. Mind you the only house I go to where it’s a thing, belongs to an ex colleague who chose such a pale grey carpet all through downstairs, it’s more like off-white!

To me that smacks of prioritising decor over guests’ comfort and convenience, so it’d never happen here.

TBH although they never actually said it in so many words, I know my folks considered shoes-off a rather lower-class thing. Nowadays I tend to think of Hyacinth Bucket!

Kate1949 Mon 20-Jun-22 13:10:34

Some people just take them off at the door. There's no need as we don't have carpets. Some insist. I usually take mine off in other homes unless they insist that I don't.

Greyduster Mon 20-Jun-22 13:08:36

What HVDY just said.

NannyB2604 Mon 20-Jun-22 13:08:27

I always offer in other people's houses. I wonder if it's a relatively recent thing as we always wore our shoes indoors as kids (or maybe we were just a mucky household confused).

HowVeryDareYou Mon 20-Jun-22 13:06:31

I've never asked anyone to take off their shoes, but then, we've got laminate flooring, so it's very easy to keep clean. I take mine off when I go to anyone's house unless they said it's ok to leave them on.

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 20-Jun-22 13:03:18

Same as kitty.

Elizabeth27 Mon 20-Jun-22 13:00:46

It is not something I have ever done myself nor would I ask others to.

If I was asked to remove my shoes I would happily do it, however, I have never been asked, maybe I should offer.

kittylester Mon 20-Jun-22 12:59:12

I wouldn't dream of asking people to take their shoes off. I do always ask in other people's homes.

NannyB2604 Mon 20-Jun-22 12:44:45

Just wondering what others think or do. Is it ever acceptable to ask someone to take their outdoor shoes off when coming into your house? Or should you (as I do at present) hope for the best and grin and bear it if they don't? We have beige carpets throughout (there when we bought the house) and can't afford (don't want) to replace them with something more practical at least for the time being. Any opinions on this?