hetty58 … not everyone needs a finger wagging. Some times a pat answer smacks of smugness. Things are complicated in rl.
annep1 … Great minds etc., I've done exactly that when I have the physical strength to do so!
Depending on the person though, it's not always possible to 'help' oneself by changing the situation.
GrannyorNanny … (like your name btw) Sounds like a long running situation to my ears.
More about his relationship towards you in other situations than just about him taking daughters side.
I sometimes think its more painful when a partner sides with a child. The feelings run deeper don't they?
He should have backed you up. or kept out of it imv.
Try to calm down so you can look at the situation with a little distance. To find out which part of it has hurt you more.
Explore it by answering people on here and try to come to some sort of conclusion, that allows you to concentrate on bits of the problem at a time.
Is it her and her actions/presence that is a problem?
Does he really NEVER take your opinions into account?
Is there any passive aggressive nature to his personality?
Do you have something unresolved in your relationship that might make you or him more sensitive?
I don't know but you probably do, if you think clearly