I have a quandary I have been mulling over for a while and I just dont know what to do for the best so am looking for opinions.
My grandson is 7, my son (his father) is not involved in his life due to addiction issues so he is being brought up by his single parent Mum with as much help from myself and his grandad as we can offer.
I greatly admire Mum as she is bringing up grandson on her own whilst also working. She is a loving , hands on, conscientious parent and her son is a credit to her.
However, her home is squalor. I don't mean it is a bit untidy or even 'lived in' unclean. It is well established, long term filthy squalor. They have several pets which aggravate the situation and the smell.
I had to go in the other day to use the toilet and I was shocked at how bad it now was ( and i am not the delicate type).
We have also noticed lately that our grandsons hair and clothes smell unclean too.
On the one hand I feel that she is doing her best (and certainly more than his father, my son!), she is a great Mum in every other way and I dont want to jeopardise our relationship with her.
On the other hand my heart breaks at the environment my grandson is being brought up in. How can he ever bring friends home and I fear he will be bullied at school.
What would you do?
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