DH has been friends with his mate since they were in their teens. They are both in their 60’s now. The mate lives with his female partner. Before COVID we saw them fairly frequently and have even been on holiday with them a few times.
Tbh I have always tolerated them for the sake of my DH. However, over the last two years we have not seen them much and we have both come to realise that we really enjoy not seeing them and don’t want to see them anymore.
Are we being unreasonable because it is such a long time friendship? OR
Are we being reasonable due to the following:-
*The mate is an anti vaxer and does not practise safety measures such as mask wearing and physical distance procedures. He would hug you if he could.
*He doesn’t believe in global warming affecting climate change. We do and although there is nothing wrong in having different view points but he won’t even try to see both sides like we do.
*He is always trying to give us stuff we don’t want and we end up having to get rid of it. To date we have had to get rid of a fridge, a bike, a piano, a trailer etc and we have even had to refuse a gift of money to buy a vehicle which my DH was insulted by.
*His partner has always made snide comments towards me over the years which I ignore to keep the peace. More often than not it has been in private but she has let one or two things slip in company and people have noticed.
*She is very opinionated, pushy and false.
*Anytime on holiday it’s always what they want to do as my DH doesn’t ever want to upset the apple cart!
Anyway, it is difficult because we are all part of a bigger friendship group. It has transpired over the last two years that the other couples in the group don’t really like them either. They are all much more down to earth like us and we gel really well. We have found this out since our many zoom calls and also a couple of holidays away in the group but minus mate and his partner. The dynamic when we all get together without them is fantastic and we can relax. Any time they have been there it has been strained and that has made it stressful.
However, we still feel bad about deserting them.
Are we being unreasonable?
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