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Floradora9 Sat 04-Dec-21 10:55:44

I went into our locaL Supermarket and as the often do on a Saturday they had a stall selling this time raffle tickets for two hampers. I saw the stall was from the local Rural so I asked what charity the money was going to . " Oh," came the reply " it is to help pay for our Rural birthday party." Was I wrong to refused to help subsidise those ladies who could well afford to pay for thir own party.? " It has been more than 3 years since we had one " the lady argued . All the more time to save up for the tickets I thought.

Mollygo Sat 04-Dec-21 11:07:31

How weird! No I don’t think you’re unreasonable. What irritates me at the moment is going into shops and being asked, “Would you like to add 50p donation to . . . charity? Happened at the pet shop yesterday.
How do I know it’ll ever leave the shop account? The assistant explained that they used to have a box where people dropped in their change, but Covid meant so many people payed by card and had no cash.

Cabbie21 Sat 04-Dec-21 11:11:08

Excuse me, what is a Rural?

glammanana Sat 04-Dec-21 11:16:02

With out sounding Bah-humbug I would have thought they could have saved for their own Christmas Party as mentioned why don't they do a Party for older lonely members of their local community they sound very selfish to me.

Allsorts Sat 04-Dec-21 11:18:19

No, support the charities you trust.

annodomini Sat 04-Dec-21 11:25:23

I haven't heard the term 'the Rural' for many years. My granny used it to refer to the Scottish Women's Rural Institute'. Is that what you mean Floradora?

annsixty Sat 04-Dec-21 11:29:12

One of our local garden centres used to ask if, when paying by card , if you would like to round it up to the nearest pond.
In practice this meant donating almost another pound or just coppers.
I always said no as I like to be the one to choose where my donation goes.
The staff always looked unhappy asking.
I felt it wasn’t fair on them but it would not guilt me into giving

Yammy Sat 04-Dec-21 11:40:52

No, they are asking to be rewarded for volunteering. Let them volunteer their own party. Give to a know Charity like Macmillan Nurses etc.hmm

Elizabeth27 Sat 04-Dec-21 12:10:03

It must be a registered charity. Maybe its members are poorer members of the rural community, there are many Christmas events funded by donations.

FindingNemo15 Sat 04-Dec-21 12:10:25

I only donate to independent animal charities as they do such good work and help so many animals.

Mollygo Sat 04-Dec-21 12:27:25

Just been to PC World and next to the card reader was a sign that asked if I’d like to donate to Age UK . Just tap . . .
I can see the point of this as a way of collecting money for the various charities, but to me it just adds another echelon of management who need to be paid out of my donation.

Sparklefizz Sat 04-Dec-21 13:13:20

I get this every time I use PayPal asking if I want to donate extra.

BlueBelle Sat 04-Dec-21 13:45:22

What’s Rural ? No I wouldn’t give to it for their party whoever they are

Niobe Sat 04-Dec-21 15:13:32

Many years ago I was asked to work for a charity by placing and collecting the tins next to cash registers in shops. I would get a cut from the money collected and I would have to bank the rest for the charity. I turned down that “opportunity “. I wonder if the shop gets a cut for asking you to round up your bill.

Peasblossom Sat 04-Dec-21 15:16:19

Yammy

No, they are asking to be rewarded for volunteering. Let them volunteer their own party. Give to a know Charity like Macmillan Nurses etc.hmm

I’d rather give to a Rural (even though I’ve never heard of it) than Macmillan.

I wouldn’t give them the dirt off my shoes.

Dear me, you’d think after nearly 30years I would have got over their uselessness. Maybe the odd one or two do some good.🙄

Sarnia Sat 04-Dec-21 15:17:03

All charities have seen their donations plummet through this virus. I would only give to charity not for a knees-up.

ValerieF Sat 04-Dec-21 15:28:05

@Mollygo. Totally agree with you here. I also was asked at pets at home if I wanted to donate! My response was “I am buying here let pets at home donate a percentage of what I’m spending” 😂. Assistant said “we do!” Ok so why ask for more? I too get fed up with people trying to wring extra money out of you, no matter where you are. Yes I know there are lots of deserving charities but come on, most people can generally only stretch themselves so far. I would like to be able to shop without being made to feel a tight a* 😂

FarNorth Sat 04-Dec-21 15:30:13

Perhaps they meant a party for deserving locals? If only for themselves, no I wouldn't donate to that.

A friend used to have a job (paid) collecting, emptying & banking for a charity.
It was a lot of work to do all the cans in her area.
She said that the charities didn't make money from it, because of her wages and the admin costs for them, but reckoned it was worth it as publicity.

AGAA4 Sat 04-Dec-21 15:37:38

I have 3'charities that I give to regularly. Anyone asking for donations I tell them that and I can't give to any more.
The Rural one is very cheeky imo.

trisher Sat 04-Dec-21 15:44:19

Peasblossom

Yammy

No, they are asking to be rewarded for volunteering. Let them volunteer their own party. Give to a know Charity like Macmillan Nurses etc.hmm

I’d rather give to a Rural (even though I’ve never heard of it) than Macmillan.

I wouldn’t give them the dirt off my shoes.

Dear me, you’d think after nearly 30years I would have got over their uselessness. Maybe the odd one or two do some good.🙄

I know several people who have had cancer and who received a load of support from Macmillan. The youngest (in her early 30s) said they had helped all the family get through it, even giving counselling to her husband. She had a party to raise funds for them.

Peasblossom Sat 04-Dec-21 16:23:03

I’m glad to hear it.

I’ll never support them though. Just can’t get past how truly awful they were.

I really resent all the money they take from Marie Curie - who actually do the hands on nursing that Macmillan won’t go anywhere near.

Calistemon Sat 04-Dec-21 16:51:43

Cabbie21

Excuse me, what is a Rural?

I was wondering how a Ruralmcould have a birthday party too.

How odd, Floradora - does someone know the manager?

Our local supermarket won't allow any charities to fundraise inside the shop and they have to be registered charities before they are allowed to stand in the (cold) foyer.

Lidl will allow some charity collectors to stand in the warm just inside!

Calistemon Sat 04-Dec-21 16:52:01

Typos sorry.

Calistemon Sat 04-Dec-21 16:55:31

Peasblossom

Yammy

No, they are asking to be rewarded for volunteering. Let them volunteer their own party. Give to a know Charity like Macmillan Nurses etc.hmm

I’d rather give to a Rural (even though I’ve never heard of it) than Macmillan.

I wouldn’t give them the dirt off my shoes.

Dear me, you’d think after nearly 30years I would have got over their uselessness. Maybe the odd one or two do some good.🙄

Oh, you too, Peasblossom?

I'm sure there must be some kind hearted people working for Macmillan, though.

Calistemon Sat 04-Dec-21 16:57:15

trisher I'm pleased to hear a positive story about Macmillan.
Perhaps it might help me get past the way they treated my Dad.