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Feeling really torn....

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Daisy25 Wed 27-May-26 11:50:00

My Father passed away just a few months ago, so I'm not very good atm at moving on.
My Mum is amazing she just gets on with it.
For the first 3 months I helped her get her financial affairs all sorted and since then....she's been going back to normal life and I'm very pleased she is coping this way.
I'm also a bit envious of her life now.
I just don't seem to have the motivation, energy or knowledge how to look forward and get on with my life, I feel so stuck.
(I think I've isolated myself too much).
AIBU to be react this way.
I live a couple of hours away from the family home, which is not ideal as my Mum gets older and needs more help to manage things going forward. I'm thinking maybe I need to move back closer to her.
I'm just really confused and stuck on what I should do and how I'm meant to feel/act/be towards my Mum.

I want to move on and be happy, but I'm just very stuck.

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rosie1959 Wed 27-May-26 12:09:35

So sorry for the loss of your dad I lost mine a few years ago now but it was a release for him as he was suffering from end stage dementia I was totally devoted to my dad but I took forward what he had taught me in life and got on with living.
Your mum is doing what is necessary for her she knows she is now alone but life has to go on.
I had my own family and grandchildren to think about so even though it was hard at times I knew my dad would wish me to get on with life. I obviously can't see him anymore but I feel he is still with me.
Certainly no need to make any big decisions now I don't know how old your mum is but she may never need help not everyone does.
Wishing you the best for the future it will get easier.

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