Me and my partner are going to his parents soon to have an uncomfortable conversation regarding what we/they expect for son/grandson.
This is my first son(and their first grandchild) I am a very independant person who knows exactly how i want to live my life.
Ever since we announced that i was pregnant we have been given all sort of comment (you will be having him in hospital, you must have such and such as your doctor etc) When we found out that our boy had a little issue the comments got a bit more and daily phone calls to see if we knew anything else. I bit my tounge (which is quite a feat for me!!!!lol)for as long as i could. When our boy was born i had requested no visitors due to our son being in neonatal unit, me and my partner wanted to be on our own and we would pass on any information we had when we could.
Since we have been home which is 4 months now the inlaws have never asked how their son is, and the comments have escallated to 'you are changing him too often', he should be in his own room (he is 4 months only) having comments re weaning, how i am wrong to send him to creche
It goes on, generally i love my inlaws but the comments are getting me down and partner has noticed that and we have stopped going to see them as often or inviting them to ours because both of us just dont want to hear how awful we are as parent (which in my opinion i dont think we are at all) Neither of us want to stop them from seeing him so we have decided to have chat.
How in your opinion do we go about it neither of us want to hurt their feelings but we want to let them know that we are capable of raising our son and all the negative comments are unnecessary. Sorry for the really long post
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