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Ariadne Sat 17-Sep-11 16:35:43

i do hope someone will have a suggestion about this; it has been puzzling me for years. I've been sorting out our parents' photos, scanning them etc. Now, there are very few from my family, especially my mother's side. (I'm an only child.) My parents moved house in their late fifties, to a "nicer" area - we were able to buy a house for them. My mum told me, quite proudly, that before the move, she had sat by the kitchen fire with the photo box, cut out all the people's faces and burned them, before burning the photos. WHY? And why didn't I ask!
I think she was trying to get rid of her past (she was very aspirational and very disappointed) and saw the move as a new start, but I wonder if there's some old wives' tale as well; my DDiL's grandmother did something similar. Any ideas?

Elegran Sat 17-Sep-11 16:53:45

Maybe some remnant of the same thing that makes some cultures burn all of a deceased person's possessions.

crimson Sat 17-Sep-11 17:03:21

Are there no surviving family members that might have an idea of what made her do it? I find it terribly sad, as I love old photos and the way they immortalise that 'moment in time'. But then, the Native Americans didn't like them, either believing that they capture your soul [or something like that]..which they do....

supernana Sat 17-Sep-11 17:23:02

crimson you are so

Ariadne Sat 17-Sep-11 17:39:05

I think it's sad too, because I do remember those photos. I do have a few, though. She was an only child too, and was a great one for pulling up the drawbridge, so we gradually lost touch with my grandparents' large families.

But I hope I've reversed the trend! Counting my lovely in law children, and of course my beautiful grandchildren, there are twelve of our immediate family already! I love it, but feel sad for my mum and whatever her past meant to her.

glammanana Sat 17-Sep-11 17:51:03

Ariadne maybe your DM had memorie's she wanted to forget and start anew,in the period you are talking about people did rather tend to keep any problem's they had to themselve's didn't they,I remember my parent's going through a very rough period which was brushed under the carpet so to speak,it was something that a women would not tolerate in this day and age,but then it was the of luck in you search for infomation,try school records for that era and maybe you can come across some photo's stored there.

crimson Sat 17-Sep-11 17:53:28

Family feuds ran very deep in those days [I guess they still do]. I made friends with a sister in law of my mums after she died [again trying to piece together the bits of my mums life that I didn't know] and always felt she'd be turning in her grave if she knew I was talking to her. My mum was a lot older than my dad, so I always felt we'd have more time to talk when my dad was no longer around but, sadly she died before him. So many unanswered questions, aren't there?

Ariadne Sat 17-Sep-11 19:48:21

Yes, Crimson, there are. It's not a huge issue, but as you all say, they didn't talk like we do. She so wanted to be better than....whoever. Ah well, I have enough for my children and grandchildren to see.

harrigran Sat 17-Sep-11 19:56:32

When one of my aunts died I found her wedding photographs and she had cut out the faces of her husband and his family. She was divorced and it was not amicable but why keep the photos ? she might as well have just binned them. Some people have things in their past that will never be recounted and it is a shame for the next generation but older generations did sweep things under the carpet.