Grandslam, good luck! Its a fine line to tread but if you can keep up a very gentle pressure for him to accept help from several sources i.e. not just you, it is so much better. Sometimes they do need to have it explained that by their not letting you 'interfere', they are actually making more worry and work for you. Also a little incident can escalate into a real drama if help is not nearby. Our FIL was doing fine with us popping over every week, doing his cleaning, helping with paperwork and just making sure he was eating well etc to all of a sudden needing a full on hospital stay and weeks of convalesance just because he had a bit of a 'funny turn' in his bath and could not get out He ended up staying in the cold bath 24hrs getting very weak until someone calling at his front door heard his voice calling for help. Then the police were called to gain entrance etc etc. We were 5 miles away at the end of a phone but completely unknowing. It was a huge drama that was all so unneccessary and was very upsetting and embarrassing for FIL. He happily had the alarm system installed then, but it was a bit of a case of 'horses and stable doors'.
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