Tips for being fearless

I never go out socialising at night, but I do enjoy having a walk and looking up at the stars. There is no light pollution in my mountains and sometimes I can actually see some milky patches. . I have been doing the same thing in New Zealand too - there is something magical about being out alone , in the countryside, after dark.
I haven't been out in a town after dark for years - I did take my eldest grandson to the restaurant in my nearest village when he came to stay the night - he was at a conference in Geneva.
I am not nervous - I just prefer to eat at home in the evenings, because I like a glass of wine and I won't drink and drive.

biggran I'm just like that. I also have had several falls and like the grand old duke- when I'm Down I'm down!

bikergran that sounds very like me when I was moderately depressed. When I went out I rushed round so I could get back home and shut the front door on the world. Now, I do almost all my shopping online. I still find crowds difficult, but after a series of unexplained falls I am less sure on my feet. I am also less confident about driving at night. In fact I don't like going out at night at all. Not because I think I'm going to be attacked or anything. It just seems so unnatural to be out in the dark! Silly really.

Jingl. I know just how you feel! If it wasn't for work I don't think I would ever get out of bed. I don't want Togo out either. It's not agoraphobia, it's just"can't be bothered"
I've given up all social life,don't like going out at night. My 9month old merc has 1260miles on the clock!
But I love my cruises!!!!

Hope you are feeling better soon too.

Thanks Butternut. x

OMG! I don't mean you're a lazy so and so!!

I mean about the weather!!!

Yeah, I think you're spot on there, Nannachrissy.

Jingl I'm sure if the sun would shine for a few hours you would be feeling more like a trip out, maybe for lunch at the garden centre?

I think this relentless rain and gloom certainly makes me want to snuggle up on the sofa all day!
But I am a lazy so and so!!

I can understand you feeling a bit vulnerable after your back and ribs, jingl - and with the whole Christmas and New Year thing, life does get out of kilter. I am sure you will be feeling like getting out and about again very soon. I've had rotten sinusitis and chest thing going on, and have been staying in a lot. Sometimes, it's just the best place to be. You do recognise the signs, which is important.x

Being concerned is very different from 'fussing', Greatnan. We are all concerned but there is a time for intervening, interfering or fussing and these times are getting further apart.

Mine are both grandmothers themselves - doesn't stop me being concerned about their health and happiness.

I wouldn't know how to fuss! I keep my mouth shut and by and large they don't make many mistakes - probably not half as many as I once made. What we have to acknowledge is that our 'children' are not children any more. They have a fair amount of life experience on which to base decisions. Well, mine are middle aged, just like me...

I must admit that, with my grownup children, it's inclined to be "out of sight, out of mind".

Different with the grandkids, though. Them I do fuss about.

I got into the habit of staying in before Christmas when I had bad back and ribs, and it's getting a bit hard to get out of it now. The thought of going into town on my own definitely makes me feel a bit jittery. Will have to be careful as I had a fair bit of agoraphobia some years back, and I wouldn't want that again.

My world just got a whole lot bigger!
I have always been fearless . If you look at a litter of puppies or kittens, there will be the outgoing, confident ones and the nervous or shy ones. However, if we are just talking about losing confidence because of age, the only thing I have noticed in myself is that I use 'Spellcheck' more often. I have always had a photographic memory for words, but occasionally I feel unsure about the spelling of a word that I have always known.
I drive many thousands of miles on my own, planning my route with maps, which is half the fun - no satnav for me. I also walk alone in very isolated places. The only time I have felt nervous was when I lived in Chelsea and had to walk home from the tube station in Sloane Square.
I do worry about my family, but only when I know, or suspect, that something is wrong.

The thing is to feel you can care for them without fussing - they are not necessarily the same thing. I know I annoy DD by fussing over the GC I tend ot panic if one i unwell and then I don;t hear any more. I find duct tape over my mouth or putting the mobile out of reach the only way!!!
Take a deep breath and assume they are old enough to survive without our intervention. Oh and Petallus - offer to let the dog out if they want? I would have loved someone to do that for me!

I equate fussing over family as being interested in them and not fussing as not caring or indifference.-Which would they rather have?-I don't think I'll read any answers.

I realise I fuss over all sorts of things I didn't used to. For example, my daughter has always kept dogs and sometimes when she is working they are left on their own for a few hours. Ten years ago I didn't give the matter a thought but now I worry if she is going to be later back home than usual because I imagine the poor dog being lonely or wanting to relieve itself. This anxiety leads to interferring behaviour from me, I'm afraid, which my daughter finds irritating. I'm 68 now so I tell my daughter it can only get worse!

That sounds delicious, jeni and nutritious too. Do you have contact with a dietician through work?

Nanachrissiy I know. I'll be better tomorrow when I'm back at work! I've packed ,chopped fresh fig, salad and goats cheese for tomorrow lunch ,with a banana and a nectarine. Is this healthy? If so im worried as I don't do healthy!

You can't give it up Jeni, it's making you grumpy already!

Hmph

Let's not talk about 'dieting', jeni. The very word is designed to make you feel deprived. Sensible eating is what we need to do. You can have your little vodka as long as you factor it in to your daily consumption of other things. If you take it with sugar-free mixers, that's all to the good.

I wish! Suppose I'll have to give up after tonight. I HATE DIETING!!!!!!!!