Water Confidence

Next time you are due to collect her you could ask if she could have her swimming things with her as you have an outing to the pool planned - see how that goes down.
I think that it's asking for trouble to actually take her without telling her mother first

This is really difficult, you can learn to swim at any age but the earlier you do it the better. Water confidence usually comes quite easily to young children but by two or three they can have developed some fear of the water. There are things that you can do at home to start to develop water confidence, lying on tummy in the bath and blowing bubbles in the water, standing under the shower etc. but only you know how her parents would react to you taken her after they had said they wanted to do it themselves. Could you have a quiet word with your daughter and explain gently that time is passing. Perhaps it might initiate action from them or you might get their blessing.

I think you need to keep asking them, and get slightly stroppy if they just put it off.

Thanks for your responses. She is happy playing with water so I don't think she would have any fears going to the pool. She likes paddling in the sea with her whellies on so I don 't feel the pool will phase her. It is just her parents I don't want to interfere but this is really worrying me. They make all the right noises and do not do anything about it. I am more than willing to take her I have even bought her a bathing costume which has not been used. I am not going to attempt to teach her to swim I will leave that to the professionals but we could have a lot of fun playing in the water which would ensure that when the time comes she is ready to learn. What is there problem with that.

I am now going to practice getting stroppy.

Could you suggest that you all make an outing to the pool at the weekend, perhaps if they had a fixed date they might go.