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19 months and not talking.

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jessie1608 Wed 29-Feb-12 23:30:32

We have my husbands grandchildren aged almost four, and nineteen months, to stay for the weekend once a month.
The younger child appears bright but does not say a single word. Nor does she babble. In fact, she makes very little sound at all. She does smile but her laughter is silent.
Husband has had a word with the daughter in law and she says the health visitor is due soon and she will mention it.
I think that a bit more pro-active action is called for, and if there is a problem, we can start tackling it.
Has anyone else got experience of a child of this age who is almost silent?

granbunny Tue 03-Apr-12 20:32:13

gbun suits me fine. daughter and grandaughter (in her baby way) call me 'guh'...

jeni Tue 03-Apr-12 20:23:00


bagitha Tue 03-Apr-12 20:21:43

Heh! heh! I like it too. It's a very good name for them, gbun smile. You don't mind me shortening your name, I hope? Saves a bit of typing is all. And then I can rabbit on.... oops! wink

wotsamashedupjingl Tue 03-Apr-12 20:18:59


wotsamashedupjingl Tue 03-Apr-12 20:18:41

Oh that's just not fair! I've been in trouble loads of times and I've never had any words of support from the Mysterious Beings. (That's a good name for them. I like that! smile)

granbunny Tue 03-Apr-12 20:04:55


no 'having words' (maybe a little bit of 'be more cautious about...') but several messages of support including one from mysterious beings. smile

granbunny Tue 03-Apr-12 19:26:52

gnhq might well have had words with some posters here, but no-one has had words with me. i look forward to hearing from these mysterious people.

Carol Tue 03-Apr-12 10:07:14

pm'd you bags

bagitha Tue 03-Apr-12 10:02:21

OK, but the one on here isn't offensive so why was it reported?

Carol Tue 03-Apr-12 09:43:21

I don't have a single problem with funny postings smile

Oxon70 Tue 03-Apr-12 09:37:23

The one on the genealogy section is a real threadstopper...

Carol Tue 03-Apr-12 09:32:47

You might have missed a few bags. GNHQ have had words!

bagitha Tue 03-Apr-12 08:43:55

I haven't found any offensive posts. Abrupt ones, yes, and ones that might be a little surprising (also amusing when you let your imagination work on them) but that's not the same thing. My own feeling is to cut a little slack and perhaps argue back. I find it refreshing to have a different point of view chucked into a thread, even if I don't agree with it or think it's odd.

numberplease Tue 03-Apr-12 01:24:22

Oh, OK.

Carol Mon 02-Apr-12 21:48:09

Offensive postings on several threads number. Reported to GNHQ

numberplease Mon 02-Apr-12 21:41:56


Butternut Mon 02-Apr-12 19:51:27


Carol Mon 02-Apr-12 19:50:54

pm'ing you Butternut

Butternut Mon 02-Apr-12 19:46:04

I've just got back carol - why is this a reported post? What's been going on?

Carol Mon 02-Apr-12 18:57:02


nightowl Mon 02-Apr-12 18:45:59

granbunny you are so funny WHO ARE YOU????

granbunny Mon 02-Apr-12 06:38:07

cousin didn't speak until three. her family were discussing, once again, getting help for her (it was over fifty years ago...) when she walked into the room, picked up a book, read a bit to them and walked out again.

JessM Fri 02-Mar-12 07:05:32

jessie1608 I think you have valid concerns. It must be difficult for you seeing such poor parenting. I agree with nanapug

nanapug Thu 01-Mar-12 22:58:41

Try going up behind her quietly and clap your hands loudly and see if she reacts. If she doesn't you really need to have her assessed. If she does react, try making quieter noises behind her just to check she is not partially deaf. If she is responding to noise you need to perhaps consider other reasons for her failure to communicate. It could be lack of stimulation. Is there any chance you could have her more frequently for a while so you can work with her and see if she makes any progress? I would suggest that she needs to be seen by a HV anyway. You could always ring her Drs surgery and tell them of your concerns, and ask them to send one out as if it were just a routine check. They will keep this confidential if you ask. It must be a worry for you but it sounds to me as if she needs to be seen by a professional.

Annobel Thu 01-Mar-12 22:35:58

They can get things wrong. At first my GS was thought to be partially deaf, then they decided he had glue ear and put in grommets. Finally it was established that he was deaf in one ear and since he got a hearing aid he has got on much better at school.