I would like some perspective/s from people of experience (as I gather you are). My mum, 64, has been supportive since I had children in the city where she lives. Without that no doubt we would get on better than in the past anyway, from a distance! Shes very resistant to change of any kind. Even when begrudgingly having to accept a part lump sum for retirement next year she can think of nothing to spend it on, no desire to go anywhere/ do anything out of the ordinary. I don't know what she will do when stopping work changes her life!
Anyway. I have three children, a new partner of 3.5 years and an ex who has been making my life a misery for the past 7. The ex has just be given contact with the children after being an alcoholic for 4ish years and going to rehab a couple of months ago. Ok so the court thinks he's able to have contact but I do not trust him at all. He has consistently lied to Everyone and been abusive to me. All this nearly dragged me under. My Mum has seen some of the worst. Although I am a capable and good Mum it has been hell at times.
So, as I have passed my degree last year and need to support myself and the children I have decided to train to teach. I know I will be good at it. The only places I can do this are 4 hours travel from my hometown. But I am ready for a new start with my supportive partner and kids are adaptable and I really believe they will be better off with a minimised relationship with the reborn Daddy at least for now. The psychological report he was given through proceedings was not reassuring.
All my mother can do when I tell her I have an interview which could lead to this more positive life is grunt and grumble. She calls round once a week (and expects me to be there with her and the kids rather than give me/ my partner a break). She has the three of them overnight once a month max.
I am hurt and really irritated by my mothers attitude. Any views appreciated.
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