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Loosing control of my eating

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CHEELU Sat 08-Dec-12 11:16:02

I have lost control of my usual radar that tells me to stop eating. I have put on about a stone in the last couple of months and its getting worse. I have never in my life felt so helpless or out of control. I have tried joining joining a gym but hated it I have a load of excuses but the truth of the matter is that I am going through a couple of things right now and the only thing that puts a smile on my face is to eat. I feel that its all I have. I feel quit bad and yes very helpless and am scared as to were this will lead.

crimson Sat 08-Dec-12 11:47:51

cheelu; are you on the diet thread? It might help you. Maybe you've got a thyroid problem and need to see your Dr? I've never had that control that stops me eating when I'm full; I can go without food without feeling hungry but, at the same time carry on eating even when I'm bloated. When you're feeling a bit down and start putting on weight makes it makes you feel more down, in a viscious spiral.

FlicketyB Sat 08-Dec-12 11:55:55

CHEELU, It's rotten when that happens, I have never comfort eaten but when I am stressed I become permanently ravenously hungry with the inevitable weight gain.

Have you considered, and can you afford to join a group like Weight Watchers or Slimmers World which are led by women who understand the problems of comfort eating and all the other eating problems and can suggest eating strategies that might help you. You will also have the support of other people with similar problems. A friend of mine who used this route to weight loss considered the moral support from fellow slimmers did more to help her conquer her weight loss than anything else.

I quite understand how miserable gyms are. My preferred exercise is walking. Now I live in a village with lots of footpaths but even when I lived in town I found walking and looking at all the houses and buildings with their different designs and architectures, looking into peoples houses as I passed and discovering little roads and businesses I didnt know existed just as much fun.

FlicketyB Sat 08-Dec-12 11:56:56

Sorry, conquer her weight gain, not weight loss.

crimson Sat 08-Dec-12 12:01:29

Was going to say what Flickety has just written. Instead of going to a gym how about setting yourself a target of walking for,say, half an hour a couple of times a'll make you feel better and will fend of sad syndrome which you might have anyway. I decided to do that last week and then my dog seemed to be lame and I stopped, but I'm going to start again today.

Movedalot Sat 08-Dec-12 12:12:36

CHEELU many of us on the diet thread use and find it very helpful. It makes us focus on what we are eating and even how much of that is fat, protein etc.

Of course this may not be the answer if you are comofrt eating but have a look at it anyway.

I read the following at a Graduation Congregation this week:

"Researchers at the University of Birmingham have shown that commercial weight management programmes are more successful and cost less than those offered by primary care facilities such as GP surgeries and pharmacies. In a study assessing the effectiveness of a variety of weight management programmes, the WeightWatchers group was the only one to demonstrate greater weight loss than the control."

If you can find ways to distract yourself from the issues which are troubling you that might help and I agree with the suggestion of a good walk each day to take you out of yourself.

I am sure there are people on GN who will be able to help if you want to discuss whatever is troubling you. flowers

annodomini Sat 08-Dec-12 12:25:47

You say that you have other issues, Chelu and I can understand that stress can cause eating patterns to go out of control. When my younger son was in hospital for five weeks at the age of 2, I put on at least a stone, partly through worry about him but also the boredom of living in the hospital. Are your other issues being addressed or are they beyond your control as well?You may find that once you get control of one aspect of your life, other things will fall into place. Meanwhile, I agree, Weightwatchers would help you to get your appetite back on track. Good luck and keep in touch with us.

CHEELU Sat 08-Dec-12 13:52:04

Thank you for your suggestions and help it means a lot. Its a pile of stress and a bit of boredom thrown in together. but what I have decided to do is force myself to go to weight watchers and walk every day and a bit of voluntary work. I only hope that I can stick to it. If I keep in touch with my progress that might encourage me to get it done and go back to a normal weight I am 11st 8ilbs so need to loose at least 3 stone!!!! Thank you for your much valued help

FlicketyB Sat 08-Dec-12 13:57:47

CHEELU, 3 stone from 11 stone 8lbs is 8st 8lb, that is a really low weight. Is your height 5ft or under? If you are above that height you probably need to lose less than 3 stone.

Barrow Sat 08-Dec-12 14:31:32

I do sympathise CHEELU, since my DH died I have piled the weight on - I also need to lose around 3 stone.

I always eat breakfast but sometimes find that I am so busy I forget to have lunch without noticing. I have a proper meal in the evening but then at night I get a terrible attack of the "munchies" I know its comfort eating but it is difficult to stop. I got rid of any snacky type things but then found I was pigging out on cheese!

In the new year I intend to give myself a good talking to and get back to my optimum weight!

Movedalot Sat 08-Dec-12 14:33:56

Cheelu Do join us on the diet thread. A new one goes up each Monday and we all share our losses/gains and support each other. At the moment we are trying to lose as much as possible before Christmas and have so far lost about the weight of one toddler! I have not contributed a thing! grin

Marelli Sat 08-Dec-12 16:35:03

CHEELU, I know that feeling so well. My weight has gone up and down over the years and my downfall is chocolate. I can't just eat one or two, but have to eat the whole box, or the whole large bar. So, once I got into the right frame of mind, I just stopped eating chocolate altogether - none at all. I also don't eat any junk food either. When glassortwo started up her 'weight-loss' thread, I joined in, and with its support, lost two-and-a-half stones. Have a look at the thread.....phoenix's cat's on it as well! grin

london Sat 08-Dec-12 17:02:55

cheelu i am the same i just eat for the sake of it .I also need to loose weight .sitting on me own on a night is the worse for me .even weight watchers didnt help me .might try the diet thread .

crimson Sat 08-Dec-12 17:04:15

Barrow; I seem to find myself eating a large chunk of cheese very late at night; I avoid it all day and then it just calls to me. I know it's the worst possible time to eat something like that as well. I may have to ban cheese from the house or keep it in the car; anything to stop it calling to me.

glassortwo Sat 08-Dec-12 20:26:18

Hi Cheelu welcome to GN. smile
I am sorry to hear you are having problems controlling your appetite, we have a diet thread which is started for a Monday morning and we register our loss or gain when we get weighed, as everyone has different weigh days the thread runs from Monday to Sunday. We all support each other and we all follow different plans to suit ourselves, some follow Slimming World, Weight Watchers or just calorie counting, and lots use My Fitness Plan. We are not experts but try to pass on what has helped us along the way, why dont you pop in on Monday and Join us.

this weeks thread

Movedalot Tue 11-Dec-12 09:18:22

It seems a lot of us have the evening eating issue. I can't trust myself so now have nothing in the kitchen which might tempt me as I know I will give in. Funny that I can have chocolate for Christmas in another room and not think about it but the kitchen is a no no for anything which might tempt me. I don't think it is hunger just an evening thing. Last night I had 3 ryvitas with a scraping of butter and marmite and found that very satisfying in defying the munchies. Maybe it is the crunching which makes me feel I have eaten?

It is (not plan) if anyone wants to give it a go. The good thing about it is that it teaches you not only how many calories are in what you eat but also how much protein, cholestrol etc.

I recomend the diet thread as it makes me focus, even when I know I will have to fess up to a gaingrin

helshea Fri 18-Jan-13 20:24:09

I have this problem I just never feel full, and if I feel anything like full it only lasts a short time. Evenings are just an awful time for eating, and I could definitely eat for two hours non stop. I've just joined slimming world for the second time, and had put on two stone since the last time I went... blinking heck I am officially a fat c*w... going to bed early used to work but now I just wake up about midnight and eat eat eat!