Husband trouble

cheerlu life is too short to be arguing at our time of life you never know what is around the corner, make up and go out and enjoy the evening there are many on GN who I know would jump at the chance.

I agree with glamma. Perhaps he's hurt that you threatened to leave. Perhaps he doesn't want another argument. Please try to resolve it and enjoy your time together.

It would be so much better if OHs did not do this stonewalling. It makes everything so much worse and is actually quite abusive.

Its a stressful time of year cheerlu I'm sure you're not the only ones who have fallen out this week.. we all say things we don't mean in the heat of an argument , please try and resolve things as the others have said and enjoy the New Years celebrations

Do you really want to leave him? If not, kiss and make up. Life is too short to stay mad at each other. xxx

Cheerlu , agree with all the above .

He"ll come round .

This time of the year all these feelings seem to be heightened. Try to get through thischeelu hard though it might be. Hope all goes well, (((hugs)))

Perhaps he saw it as a flash in the pan and a case of least said soonest mended? I agree with kiss and make up if that is what you want. It is not always easy but something along the lines of I was cross, I spoke in haste and I am sorry, you know I didn't mean it etc. Don't necessarily expect an apology from him though!!

your posts made me cry because you all care, and to be honest I am not really used to that. Its so nice to be able to talk about it and get other peoples take on things

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There are other threads cheelu where people are posting about lost loved ones, please don't let this carry on unless it is what you really want.

petallus men aren't the only ones who stonewall - I'm quite good at it myself when I feel like it. I'm trying to change! I can think of things that are a lot more abusive though.

Stonewalling is what I do ; I didn't know there was a word for it. My children always said my silences were far worse than someone with a temper. I'm stonewalling at the moment [that's why I'm up here on the pooter].

cheelu can you make up ...are you really still angry,or is that because he will not talk to you and your feelings are frustrated because it feels unfinished business and the air needs clearing....if you have cooled down now a big hug,and a night out will do you good ...have read some of your stresses and can empathise with youxxxxxxlove nellie.

I agree men are not the only ones who stonewall. It was described as abusive in a very good book I have on emotional abuse.

But if ever a miracle happened and DH mentioned a problem we were having before I forced him to I wouldn't pretend I didn't know what he was on about. I'd be so pleased.

Oh dear! I do it too....

Stonewalling is refusing to acknowledge or respond to another person's anger or upsetness, not sulking.

Oh - no I don't do that, I sulk! I see what you mean, petallus.

I just go very quiet. My ex was a stonewaller from that description.

I took everyone's advise and and went and talked to him, I just asked him straight out do you want me to leave and he said no of coarse I don't and we are alright now--without your help I just would have sat here frustrated..thank you does not cover it but a Big Thank you x x x x x

So you had an argument with DH. What's new? Happens all the time round here. [shrug]

Not for a while, though. We'll be ring rusty by the time the bell goes next time. Seconds out...

There you go cheelu!! Have a lovely night out (and don't do anything we wouldn't do!!)

cheelu,,,,glad you got it sorted,,,stay with all of us,,,,we all care...my husband drives me mad too, sometimes,,,,,but at my time of life i am not leaving the house we have ,,,all my things,,,or the money we have,,,,what for another woman to come along,,,,no way........its quite stressful at christmas and new year,,,,we all go through it,,,so go out and enjoy yourself,,,,after new year go to the hairdressers,,,go to a spa and go shopping and treat yourself....sending you a hug and happy new year,,,,,,

I agree, we've all invested too much and the grass is not greener. Glad you spoke and got it sorted.