What is your advise for a long and happy Marriage

After 50 years married -I would say its sticking power, going through thick and thin and both being loyal to each other. I think arguements are inevitable because there are rough times and mood changes on both sides. Life is not always smooth. Depth of feelings of love for one another is important.

Hunt, it's so reassuring to know that your marriage has been so happy and successful.

Ohhhhhhh Hunt that is so nice!!!!!

57th anniversary coming up this year. Don't know what makes it work but we must have something right. I love him even more than when I saw him on the station at Wroxham in 1953 and thought to myself,'' He's for me!''

Yep.

I dont get that pee in a bucket thing does that mean that you have to go through the rough times together????

At least not both at the same time

And I didn't REALLY mean you have to pee in a bucket

Thats brilliant harrigran, I like and very much agree to that one....

hey I need every bit of help I can get ha ha.. but we will all be much the better for it IMHO

Right...as you were folks!

Just asking because I am interested Ana and feel that we all can benefit from any advise given.

I have already learnt quite a bit from the post so far, like for instance what nanapug has said that it is always her that apologizes but that's OK because it works for them--that has made me realize that I need to be more like that---

and Grannyknot saying they are a team, that makes me realize that that is a good attitude to have and one that I should adopt..etc etc etc...

Give and take, he gives and I take

No use asking me either

cheelu, are you asking for advice for yourself or someone else? Or just generally? I don't think any of the old clichés would apply to every marriage, you have to work out what's best for your own particular one.

Never say anything in anger that you wouldn't say normally, and never go to sleep on an argument. It is usually me that says sorry but that's ok as it works!

Its no use asking me!

Husband and I have become a team. We rarely argue, but every so often we have a big blow up. Clears the air! So my advice is: team work.

Nothing wrong with arguments so long as you don't sulk/bear grudges/keep bringing up old arguments etc. My 43 years of marriage would have been very boring without the arguments but they don't last long, it's all hot air and we know in the long run that we are both on the same side.

Not sure I would want to advise anyone on how to achieve a long and happy marriage these days but as an elderly neighbour once said to DH, 'Some days, you've got to be prepared to pee in the same bucket.'