I have been alone with my 4 x DC for 4 years. My ex is abusive and has had no contact with the DC for years. He refuses to pay the mortgage, bills etc and has made both my life and the DC's lives one of stress and worry. My DM, the DC's gran has listened, supported and bought the extras for the DC when I just couldn't afford them.
My ex has taken it so far the house has to be put on the market to pay off his debts - there will be no capital for me and more importantly no home for the DC. All of that I will deal with, but my DM (gran) has announced that she will go to a flat and I can have her house. She will support me in that house until I am able to find a job (youngest DC is disabled).
I feel SO GUILTY. None of this misery is of her making or anything to do with her. It's not my fault or my DC's fault either - but I have brought it to her door and she is going to move out of her home to give me and the DC a home (she is in her 80's but a wonderfully vibrant woman).
Just that really - my DC ask me, would I do the same for any of them - and in a heartbeat I would, but I am 50, (have been a SAHM all my life) shouldn't I somehow magic a job and provide myself even though I know realistically I can't and the children need me still.
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