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Have you ever strayed

(27 Posts)
Mey Thu 31-Jan-13 21:21:20

I havent so far. I dont think that I would mainly due to my personal beliefs and I dont think I could deal with it emotionally.

But it would be intersting to find out if people have and what drove them to do it and if they think it was a good decision or not.

Mishap Thu 31-Jan-13 21:22:57

No - one is quite enough!

baubles Thu 31-Jan-13 21:24:32

hmm Mey, not altogether sure anyone would confess all on here!

jeni Thu 31-Jan-13 21:26:24

I can honestly say no!

Mey Thu 31-Jan-13 21:27:16

I did think that but its not like anyone is going to squell, well I dont think so.

glassortwo Thu 31-Jan-13 21:28:28

Mey I agree with baubles not sure anyone will admit it, but no I haven't.

Nonu Thu 31-Jan-13 21:40:02

A Big NO No when I took my vows 42 years ago, I meant it.


Tegan Thu 31-Jan-13 22:03:35

Was totally faithful for 30 years to someone who left me for someone else. Looking back I sometimes wish I had strayed [there were plenty of opportunities] but it wasn't in my nature.

Mishap Thu 31-Jan-13 22:06:25

I had my offers - but took my vows seriously; and the well-being of my children; and the fact that I regard fidelity as the most important thing in stability in society.

Ana Thu 31-Jan-13 22:06:28

Mey, anyone on the internet can view this site, and as much as we may try to protect our identities by usernames etc., if someone is determined to track someone down it is possible.

So it's not a case of anyone on here telling on us - it can be wise to be a bit circumspect.

absent Thu 31-Jan-13 22:08:42

What does squell mean?

Grannyknot Thu 31-Jan-13 22:10:59

Not difficult to work out, absent, it means squeal.

maxdrans Thu 31-Jan-13 22:12:01

I. too have been faithful but l think it is our generation thing the young these days seem to have a different moral outlook on marriage vows my family included

Mey Thu 31-Jan-13 22:19:46

maxdrans both my Grand Fathers were un faithful and would be around 90 now had they lived this long

Nonu Thu 31-Jan-13 22:20:30

Oh , gosh when I said i took my vows 42 years , it doesn"t mean to say I did not hve offers , but I chose not to take them up .

annodomini Thu 31-Jan-13 22:25:45

I didn't; he did. Enough said.

NfkDumpling Thu 31-Jan-13 22:32:29

Never felt the need. Wouldn't have been able to anyway - no memory and a terrible liar.

numberplease Thu 31-Jan-13 23:14:47

Never, it`s enough coping with one man without getting tangled up with another!

Grannyknot Fri 01-Feb-13 08:35:38

Nope. My father was a serial womaniser and that was enough to put me off infidelity for ever - seeing the pain and devastation it caused in ours and his successive relationships.

Ariadne Fri 01-Feb-13 08:48:47

number Quite! smile

vampirequeen Fri 01-Feb-13 08:50:50

I was but he wasn't. Though I did have my Jezebel period when I escaped. Now with my lovely second DH and the thought never crosses my mind.

Deedaa Fri 01-Feb-13 22:00:39

I was tempted once, but I knew and liked his wife so it was obviously a non starter. I had a nice toy boy at one time, but living in the country there would have been no hope of keeping it quiet so it seemed wiser not to get too involved.

Anne58 Fri 01-Feb-13 23:13:00

Yes, during first marriage, (but long story) definitely not, never, no how now!

glammanana Sat 02-Feb-13 07:49:08

The thought has never crossed my mind,there is only room for one mr.glamma in my lifetime,but it doesn't stop me admiring an attractive man.The thought of getting used to someone else's habits frighten's me to death to be honest.

Barrow Sat 02-Feb-13 12:43:54

Before my DH and I were married we discussed the possibility and we both agreed that if it did happen there would be no second chances. I never met anyone I was willing to risk losing my DH for.

As for DH, he was once asked if he would stray and his reply was that he could only fight one battle at a time!!