Cathy, another mum with the same problem as you, but possibly worse, posted a thread on Relationships - ungrateful selfish daughter.....help.
You may find it helpful to read through it. Not only the advice given but by reading her posts, stand on the outside and look in to a relationship between parent and child that is similar to yours. It ran February - March this year.
Angela Rayner lashes out and calls Sunak “pint sized loser”.