After two years of non-committal and vague comments from the Consultant and our GP it appears that we are edging towards a diagnosis of Vascular Dementia. One of the difficulties I have faced is trying to gloss over or explain away DH's puzzling, increasingly odd, (sometimes downright rude) behaviour with neighbours, old friends and acquaintances, by either ignoring it or simply saying he is tired, in a bad mood, still suffering the effects of his accident, because I felt I had no right to stick a label on him or talk about him behind his back. This week we have had some tradesmen doing bits and bobs of maintenance in the house - all old friends that DH used to work with regularly before he retired and it was obvious that they were taken aback by DH's failure to engage in conversation with them, disappearing and leaving me to explain what needed done and expressing surprise that he had not tackled the jobs himself because he looks so fit and well. Another problem is turning down invitations when DH will not go, nor can he be safely left 'home alone' so that I can go on my own.
Now that a diagnosis is imminent, I am still at a loss as to how to tackle the subject with people outwith the close family circle. DH would never admit to any 'weakness' on his part, so there is no way that he would tell anyone himself. Should I continue to dissemble or should I tell people on the QT? Would it be OK to tell a few key people and ask them to let others know? Any thoughts or advice would be most welcome.
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