I’m asking other mums of sons here. Would you ever do anything to jeopardise your relationship with your son’s wife? My DD’s in-laws have been challenging to her since the very beginning. They have two sons (28 & 32) and are very controlling with both of them. Their engagement was hijacked, there were riots during the run up to the wedding (if his mum wasn’t involved in everything I did with my DD) and now they have just had their first child it has gone crazy. My DD contracted sepsis during the birth and was incredibly ill and in intensive care for 2 days. MIL arrived up after DGD was born with a giant balloon (nurses were aghast). My SIL asked them to go home and give his DW space and time to recover. A full hissy fit followed. DD has had a rough time - feeding wasn’t going well, she was still in recovery etc. Anyway, SIL’s parents had a huge fight with him about “not getting to see that baby!” And “her mother” being there more. I should explain I live in the same apartment block and was up in their house doing laundry, housework and making meals for them, not holding the baby. This has now horribly gone on for 4 months with terrible things being said to both my SIL and my DD. Strained visits by SIL’s parents and much stress to both my SIL and DD.
Mothers of sons - do you accept that your DIL will be closer to her own mum than you? Would you tread gently? (I’m a mother of 2 girls and a boy and have a good relationship with my DIL because I was gentle from the beginning- my own DM told me to make a friend of my son’s wife because I didn’t want to be a monster in law!)
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