Gillybob, I really admire you and all you do, so don't let one nasty remark get to you.
If you are a martyr, then so am I! I too can't say No , not only to family, but everyone else, probably to the detriment of my own health. There are not enough hours in the day just now.
Last night DH and I were saying, as much as we adore DGD how resentful we were becoming. My my son promised to pick up ill DGD early, as we had electricians, joiners and a plasterer in the house, we couldn't even make a cup of tea.
However, it was actually DIL who turned up even later than usual, saying DS was away buying takeaway, as they were so late getting home!!! No thought as to how stressful the whole situation was for us and how we were going to manage to eat, among the kitchen chaos.
We only have ourselves to blame! However, we had little support from our own parent's and we want to help our own children.
I hope you get some relaxation this weekend Gilly.