Mother, 94, came to live with DH and me 4 months ago. Already the situation irritates me no end. She has carers twice a day, though we don't really need them because, from being in a nursing home at death's door, Mum has perked up considerably since being with me. However, it's the fact that she is HERE all the time. This morning I was on the computer in the kitchen and she came out to sit with me. Then prattled on about rubbish which she always does. I feel my home is not my own and am happier when I'm not in it which is crazy! I will be 70 soon and feel like it's a milestone and I want to tell her I'm too old to be doing this now. She does pay me to live here but I feel my life is slipping away because of hers. Then I feel guilty for having awful thoughts. We have never been close and, if I'm honest, I know she doesn't love me and never really has. I did read a post where someone suggested that in the event of any crisis - ie her having to go to hospital or becoming ill with any kind of infection - then I could say I can't cope any more. Anyone been in this situation?
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