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How old were you when your first grandchild was born?

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Juno56 Mon 12-Aug-19 20:24:00

Hello, new member here. I joined because my first grandchild will be born in late November. I am 63 and hadn't thought I was particularly old to be a first time grandma. However, when I mentioned the baby to a (slightly older) acquaintance she said: "ooh that's very late; I was under 50. You might not see her grow up"!! I was so taken aback that I had no response. It set me wondering though, as young couples delay starting a family it inevitably means that grandparents are older than was the norm a few years ago. So if people don't mind sharing, how old were you when you became a grandparent?

Septimia Mon 12-Aug-19 20:31:43

59 - and I wasn't really ready then. No regrets, though.

My cousin was 39. I don't think I'd have wanted to be that young.

love0c Mon 12-Aug-19 20:33:11

What an unkind and untrue thing for this person to say! I was 60 and my husband 61 when our first grandchild was born. Both our sons went to university and therefore started with married life and children later than our generation did. All their friends have been late starters as they too went to university. I think it is more the norm now for parents to get grandchildren later. We plan on living till 110 at least!!!! So plenty of time to enjoy the grandchildren. You enjoy yours!!!

Willow500 Mon 12-Aug-19 20:34:02

43 when the first one arrived and 61 when the last one came 4 years ago. Big age difference in the cousins smile

Minniemoo Mon 12-Aug-19 20:38:53

I'd had my first daughter when I was very young. She was very much planned though. She was far more sensible than I was and had her first child at 27. I was 47. It did come as somewhat of a shock at the time!

I'd married again and had 2 more children who were still quite young at the time so it felt weird to be so 'young' and a Grandma!

The comment your acquaintance made was ridiculous and best just ignored.

SueDonim Mon 12-Aug-19 20:40:17

Fifty-five here, which felt a bit young, maybe because I still had my own 13yo dd at home!

BBbevan Mon 12-Aug-19 20:40:39

I was 61, very near to youJuno It has never crossed my mind that I was 'old' to be a grandma. I was just extremely happy to be so.

Hetty58 Mon 12-Aug-19 20:40:59

I was 51 for the first and 64 for the latest but there will be more. I think I appreciate and enjoy them more than I did my four children (I was so busy and stressed back then). The first one lived with me until he went to secondary school so was more like an 'extra' bonus child!

GrandmaKT Mon 12-Aug-19 20:41:19

I was 55. I'm now 60 and we have 3 GC (so far), but the vast majority of my friends aren't grandmas yet, so I think 63 if pretty much par for the course nowadays! Congratulations flowers

GagaJo Mon 12-Aug-19 20:44:21

52, which was a lot older than I'd hoped I'd be. Daughter didn't really want children and he was a miracle (categorically not an accident from my POV). I would have loved him to have come along while I was in my 40s.

MiniMoon Mon 12-Aug-19 20:47:04

I was 56. My daughter says that I'm a young Granny. I'm 68 now and the grandchildren are 12, 10, 9 and 6.
I don't think there will be any more.

FlexibleFriend Mon 12-Aug-19 20:47:50

64 and that's pretty much what I expected.

Grannybags Mon 12-Aug-19 20:50:42

59 when then first one arrived and 64 by the time her sister came into the world. Parents hadn't wanted a gap that big but you can't make these things happen!

I don't think there will be any more

cornergran Mon 12-Aug-19 20:54:03

Ignore the comments. Unreasonable and unkind. I was 57 when the first was born, 67 when the most recent arrived. I can enjoy them all and spent far more time with the youngest as a baby and toddler because I had more time. Just enjoy it all.

WOODMOUSE49 Mon 12-Aug-19 20:57:25

I was 54 but it all depends on how old we had our children. I had my daughter when I was 20.

She had her daughter when she was 35.

If she'd had her at same age me, I'd have been a gran at 40.

SalsaQueen Mon 12-Aug-19 20:57:56

I was 52 when our first grandchild (my son was almost 30 then), and 5 when her sister came along. Age doesn't mean a thing - enjoy the baby. It's great having grandchildren.

paddyann Mon 12-Aug-19 20:58:30

I was 49 ,I had my daugheter when I was 24 and a half and she had her sone at the same age ,he's 16 now 3 others from 12 -8 and anew baby expected end of this month .I had a 15 year old when GS was born and he has a 10 year old and the expected baby is his.My granny was late 60's when I was born and I was 18 when she died 47 years ago.She was an inspiration and a joy in my life and I remember her every day ,Just enjoy this GC and dont think about how long you may or may not be around ,make memories for her/him like my granny did for us .

LadyGracie Mon 12-Aug-19 20:59:11

I was 65 when blessed with my miracle granddaughter. smile There will unfortunately be no more!

MissAdventure Mon 12-Aug-19 21:00:36

I was 39.
We start young in these parts.

GrannyGravy13 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:02:53

I was 51, we have 6 GC with 2 more on the way.........

gillybob Mon 12-Aug-19 21:07:21

First granddaughter at 44 followed by another at 46 then a grandson at 48 (all my DS’s children) my DD’s one and only child (our lovely little surprise) DGD was born last year . I was 56 smile

fairisle Mon 12-Aug-19 21:11:52

I was 47 when my 1st GC was born,i`m now 55 and have 3 GC.I was 22 when my 1st child was born, i was way too young.

Pantglas1 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:14:43

I was 44 and wanted 5 years with DH to do as we pleased swanning around the world but my daughter had other ideas! I spent her pregnancy feeling a little cheated but of course I fell in love with DGD and have been besotted ever since!

M0nica Mon 12-Aug-19 21:15:47

I was 63 when my first grandchild was born. DDiL's mother was 72. 12 years later she is still hale and hearty and good for another decade, by which time DGD (and her younger brother will be in their 20s. My father lived into his 90s, still indpendent, if I do that, and so far so good, DGC will be in their 30s.

stella1949 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:17:12

54 when the first one was born, 62 when the last one arrived.

Grandma70s Mon 12-Aug-19 21:24:23

I was 68. It didn’t seem particularly old to me. I remember my father was 65 when my first son was born, and he thought he was too young to be a grandfather. He lived to 94, so he did see my children grow up. My grandchildren are ten and seven. I don’t really expect to see them grow up. I’m their grandmother, not their mother.

As a family, we have all married and had children relatively late, after higher education and so on. It’s normal to us.

Iam64 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:39:30

What a silly comment - an acquaintance who will never become a friend I suppose.
I was 44 when my first grandchild arrived and 69 when the most recent arrival joined us. My older grandchildren are in their 20's, the younger group in primary/nursery school. They make me want to live for ever but I know that's not going to happen so I grab the moment with all of them.

Juno56 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:40:23

Thank you everyone for your responses and good wishes. I honestly don't think the woman who made the comment to me meant to be hurtful or offensive but as I said in my opening post I was taken aback. I am so looking forward to meeting my little granddaughter and intend to be around for many years to come. My DD and DSIL have said that it will be 'one and done' so she is very precious.

Nanny27 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:45:07

What an unkind comment to make! I’m shocked! I was 53 when my first gc was born and 59 for the last but it wouldn’t have bothered me at if I had become a nanny in my 60’s.

DanniRae Mon 12-Aug-19 22:07:35

I was 70 - and my daughter was 45. He is our little miracle baby smile.

Auntieflo Mon 12-Aug-19 22:17:29

I was 48 when our first GS was born. Then five more followed, fairly regularly spaced, until after a long gap, our youngest GS was born when I was 72.

Framilode Mon 12-Aug-19 22:18:16

Well, shock horror, I was 36. I had a higher education as did my daughters. Very young I know, but it has worked out well for all concerned. The grandaughter that was born when I was 36 was 36 herself yesterday. Seems strange.

EllanVannin Mon 12-Aug-19 22:25:12

I was 44 when my first GD was born. Then nearly 66 when twin GGC were born. They became teenagers in June.

tanith Mon 12-Aug-19 22:34:59

I was 38 when the first GC was born and 70 when the last one was born a big gap between them. I have 9 GC.

My first GGC was born before the last GC, I have 3 GGC and one due anytime now.

Grannycool52 Mon 12-Aug-19 22:38:15

66 and my first grandchild has just recently arrived 😊

absthame Mon 12-Aug-19 23:10:02

I was 47, my wife was 39, for our first GC and 67 for our first GGC, 7 years ago since when I have been presented with a further 4 GGC............... I hope that we can continue actively in all of their lives.

However it matters little what age you start on this new journey, it is still extra special.

CanadianGran Mon 12-Aug-19 23:11:50

I was 52, and I remember remarking to a co-worker that the other grandmother was only 41( my DIL's mum). She was shocked, since she had just become a mother herself at the age of 42!

crazyH Mon 12-Aug-19 23:15:20

58 - first grandchild

Chewbacca Mon 12-Aug-19 23:25:50

First grandchild at 60. And I still felt I was too young! grin

maddyone Mon 12-Aug-19 23:45:09

Our first grandchildren, twins, arrived when I was 60, almost 61, and my husband 61. Later my son adopted a little boy, and although I was 62 when he arrived, he was already 2 and a half years old, so I sort of became a grandparent at 59, but I didn’t know my grandson then. Our latest and last grandchild arrived when I was 64. We have been told that there will be no more grandchildren.

maddyone Mon 12-Aug-19 23:48:51

Juno56, don’t take any notice of your acquaintance, 63 is a great age to enjoy your new grandchild. None of us know whether we’ll see our grandchildren grow up, but as life expectancy has increased, so the possibility of seeing them grow up improves. But whatever, just enjoy your new grandchild when he/she arrives.

ginny Mon 12-Aug-19 23:54:36

Congratulations !
What a daft thing for her to say.

I was 48 when DGS1 was born and 61 when his cousin came along. Maybe another to come, so I’ll be over 65.

SueH49 Tue 13-Aug-19 00:17:48

I was 48 when my first GC was born. Next GC came (different son) when I was 63 and the last when I was 66

pinkprincess Tue 13-Aug-19 00:23:22

I was 47 when my first grandchild was born.I now have five altogether.When I was 70 I became a great grandma with another one born when I was 72
My son became a grandfather at 42, and one of my sisters was 39 when she became a grandma.

Grandma2213 Tue 13-Aug-19 00:36:31

After thinking it would never happen I had two at 60, then another two at 62 and one at 64. The my oldest DS totally surprised me with one this year just before I was 72. I am fully hands on with three of them living with me part time.

BradfordLass72 Tue 13-Aug-19 02:04:41

46. And because nothing is ever simple in our family, my son was home on leave from the army and said very glibly, 'Are you doing anything tomorrow Mum?'
'No, not really, why?'
'Would you like to go see your grand-daughter?'

That was the very first inkling that the girl, now 25 and utterly precious, was in my world.

I had known about my son's long-time girlfriend, she often penned a few lines at the end of his letters to me but certainly not that she was 'with child'. grin

I was so overjoyed.

I said, 'Can I tell people?!' and spent the next 60 mins ringing everyone I knew and no doubt boring them with my jubilation and pride as I cried, 'I'm a Grandma! I'm a Grandma!'

Because her own mother didn't even know she was pregnant, my dgd's Mum came to ask me if I would look after baby for a month whilst she visited and broke the news gently.
So I had dgd as a newborn and regularly throughout her life as Mum tried to complete her university degree.

We have a wonderful relationship even though she now lives and works in London. We keep in touch via Facebook.

kittylester Tue 13-Aug-19 07:31:45

I was 58 when our eldest daughter had her first and our littlest was born 9 months ago when I was 69. I doubt we will have more than the current 7.

We also have 19 and 17 year old step grandsons but I wasnt around when they were born. They are much loved by us - so our total number of grandchildren is 9

Bordersgirl57 Tue 13-Aug-19 07:48:10

I have 5 grandchildren and a step grandchild on the way. I was 52 when the first one was born and I don't think I felt that I was too young but at the same time I'm 62 now and just as pleased about the one due in November!

Stuff and nonsense - don't pay any attention to what she said - you can't change your age after all! So put it out of your mind and just enjoy all the time you can spend with the wee one.

Greta8 Tue 13-Aug-19 07:58:28

65 here - just moved nearer our daughter and will be a very hand-on granny - looking after the baby two days a week when my daughter goes back to work. I know people who are 'old' at 50 - it depends on your attitude and how well you look after yourself. Being able to be with grandchildren is a huge gift - I will never be taking it for granted.

Witzend Tue 13-Aug-19 08:10:30

67 - and I do sometimes wish I'd been 10 years younger, with a bit more energy. But many of dd's friends have also had babies in late 30s/early 40s so hardly unusual now.
Gdcs now 3 and 4 - with no. 3 due soon after Christmas, so that will make early January a lot less dreary than usual!

I had two grandmothers until after I was married, and a great-grandfather until I was about 14.

My mother survived until shortly after our first Gdc was born, but alas she was 97 and in late stage dementia, so unable to understand or enjoy her.

LullyDully Tue 13-Aug-19 08:16:01

As they say today " you are what you are" Just enjoy your GC and ignore silly people talking rubbish. Have fun with them.

LullyDully Tue 13-Aug-19 08:17:15

PS my granny was 70 when I was born and I loved her so much, still do in my heart.

TwiceAsNice Tue 13-Aug-19 08:17:20

I was 55, two months off 56. My daughters twins are now 10. She was 33 when they were born and decided there would be no more. My youngest daughter is single and will probably not have her own children but she is a very hands on Aunty and does a lot with them on her own.

Gaunt47 Tue 13-Aug-19 08:19:39

In the background of a long ago Mitchell & Webb TV sketch was a block of flats with a huge sign hanging from 2 of the balconies: "Happy 30th Birthday Grandma".

BlueBelle Tue 13-Aug-19 08:24:51

Who cares what age anyone is I was 52 with first and 61 when 7th arrived my best friend was 67 and thought she’d never have any, one gay son one daughter had hysterectomy and never wanted kids and another son who seemed a bit of a joker but now she has two young young and beautiful lads

Insensitive remark and not worth thinking any more about

silverlining48 Tue 13-Aug-19 09:04:41

61 with the first and 64 the second. Now 10 years later while they are still young and VERY lively My energy level has dropped. They are coming over today and while I would have loved to have taken them out fir the whole day, have reduced our time together to just the afternoon.
That maybe the invisible price of universal higher education which with gap years etc mean our children delay marriage and commitment, and for women who want to establish a career, children too.
However friends became first time grandparents at 80, so I am grateful for having that extra time with mine.
So enjoy your grandchild. It will be wonderful.

shysal Tue 13-Aug-19 09:11:32

I was 52, and within the next 7 years had 6 grandchildren from my two daughters.
Babysitting was hard work as they came in sets of three, but great fun. Now that they are grown up I miss the fun times spent with them all.

Grandma70s Tue 13-Aug-19 09:19:58

My brother must have been 81 when his only grandchild was born. She’s 2 now.

harrigran Tue 13-Aug-19 09:20:05

I was 59 when the first was born and 63 when the second and final GC arrived.
I had to wait for youngest DC to produce GC as DD did not plan to have children.
My mother was 37 when I was born but still only 59 when I gave her a GC, she still had a twelve year old of her own at home.

Granarchist Tue 13-Aug-19 09:46:14

61 and sad I may well not see them married.

Luckygirl Tue 13-Aug-19 09:52:08

54 for the oldest and and 66 for the youngest. No more planned as far as I know, but there has been the odd surprise amongst the 7 we have! I know that all 3 DDs would be appalled if they found themselves pregnant again!

I hope to see them grow up a bit - this is not something I have thought about really; but the oldest is off to college in September, and the youngest starts school then. I hope very much to see a GGC - but not just yet! smile

merlotgran Tue 13-Aug-19 10:09:06

49 for the eldest grandchild and 57 for the youngest.

Seven of them arrived thick and fast. It was an expensive decade! grin

fizzers Tue 13-Aug-19 10:12:23

I was 46, I was 23 when I had my daughter and she was 23 when she had her eldest

Theoddbird Tue 13-Aug-19 10:15:59

I was 46. He is a wonderful young man of 22 now. Have had 5 more since then. The youngest is 3 1/2.

blondenana Tue 13-Aug-19 10:20:43

I was 38, didn't want to be called grandma, though so its nanna

Davida1968 Tue 13-Aug-19 10:22:24

54. (Thank goodness - because I still had plenty of energy then!)

henetha Tue 13-Aug-19 10:26:15

I was 52 when my first grandaughter was born, which I thought was just about the right age really.
Then 54, 62 and 65. I'm Nan to all of them.

Glosgran Tue 13-Aug-19 10:26:33

I was 56 when my first grandchild was born. My brother was 43 when his first grandchild was born. She is now 20 and expecting her first child in the autumn, so my brother will be a great grandfather at the age of 63 and his son will be a grandfather at age 39. At 97, my father will become a great-great grandfather!

Summerstorm Tue 13-Aug-19 10:27:51

I was 47 first time round, my husband same age died a few months after so age not really relevant. My most recent granddaughter was born just before my 70th birthday

Nanastomant Tue 13-Aug-19 10:28:55

I'm 54 and have 13, 8, 2.5 and 2 plus 1 on the way

FC61 Tue 13-Aug-19 10:30:40

If you’re healthy 60-65 is perfect because you’ve had your 50’s to have a bit of fun before you settle down again !

trendygran Tue 13-Aug-19 10:33:27

I was 58 when my first granddaughter was born and 60 when her sister was born.Quite late I guess compared with some.

grannytotwins Tue 13-Aug-19 10:38:21

50 when the first arrived and 62 when the last two arrived. Six grandchildren in all. I desperately want to see the twins grow up. They were very premature and had so many health problems. Now they are seven, they are so clever and seem to have so much potential. Grandparents were a big part of my childhood and I am of theirs. I’m so lucky.

cangran Tue 13-Aug-19 10:40:14

64 (one and only GC. His other grandma, who had two older GC, was 75). I am thankful I have been fit enough to enjoy my GS and he still expects me to play football with him!

Harris27 Tue 13-Aug-19 10:40:24

47 and 55 when last born felt no different.

lizzypopbottle Tue 13-Aug-19 10:41:17

I was 32 years old when my daughter was born and 62 years old when my first grandson arrived.

Grandma70s Tue 13-Aug-19 10:43:58

I wasn’t expected to look after mine (they live at the other end of the country), so my age wasn’t a problem.

My children were still at primary school when I was the age some of you became grandparents!

Bigred18 Tue 13-Aug-19 10:45:31

I was ancient, 73! And feel it when helping out with 2 under 3. I was 37 when i had my daughter and she was 36 when she had her first

B9exchange Tue 13-Aug-19 10:48:13

56 for the first one, and the latest to date, a few days before my 70th. I did feel a bit unready for the first one, and can't believe I am grandparent to a 14 year old!

Newquay Tue 13-Aug-19 10:51:00

I was 47 when 1st DGD appeared. Last DGC is now 19 months old. DH and I certainly feel the difference in our ages looking after youngest compared to when we looked after first two. Like others have said we hope we have many more years with them. We could be great GPs couldn’t we with the age of oldest DGD?

Kartush Tue 13-Aug-19 10:51:50

41 and now at 63 i am a ggm

MooM00 Tue 13-Aug-19 10:59:26

I was 60 when my first grandaughter arrived. I was 24 when I had my daughter. She was 36 with her first. I would have loved to have been a younger grandma, say about 50. On saying that I am really greatful for what I have.

inishowen Tue 13-Aug-19 11:03:32

59 for me. We've had three more since. It is tiring but they are a delight

JulieMM Tue 13-Aug-19 11:06:27

I was 47 when our first granddaughter was born and I was there at her birth. The bond was immediate and we have had so many adventures over the years. Her A level results are due on Thursday .... where have those amazing 18 years gone I wonder! I also have 6 and 3 year olds who I adore but this 66 year old Nanny just ain’t what she used to be … the mind is more than willing but the body just will not take heed!

Legs55 Tue 13-Aug-19 11:06:45

My 1st Grandchild was born when I was 41 however this is a Step-G thanks to my lovely Step-Daughter & SiL

My 1st actual Grandson was born when I was 54, I had DD at 25 but she was 29 when she had DGS1 & 36 when DGS2 was born. My DM became GG at 81.

jura2 Tue 13-Aug-19 11:11:57

55

razzmatazz Tue 13-Aug-19 11:12:22

I was 64. Long time coming . smile

Craftycat Tue 13-Aug-19 11:19:11

54 when first one born. 63 when last one was born.
My Mum was only 42 when I had my first son as she married young as did I.

Farmor15 Tue 13-Aug-19 11:19:52

64 and didn't think it was old.

Afeica1 Tue 13-Aug-19 11:21:23

I was 44 when my first DGD was born and had the unexpected privilege of seeing my second DGD born a week ago today, 10 weeks early!!

(Mum & baby both doing well, Nanny is an emotional and physical wreck grin....)

Elcie Tue 13-Aug-19 11:23:14

I was 49, and gave up my well paid but demanding job to look after him. Best thing I ever did as I have a fabulous relationship with him, (he’s 10 now). I also looked after my granddaughter who was born in 2014, so only five years later, but I found it much more tiring. Now looking forward to my real retirement. 😉

cupcake1 Tue 13-Aug-19 11:32:27

48 and delighted ! smile

mrsgreenfingers56 Tue 13-Aug-19 11:41:54

I was 55 when I became what I thought would be a Step-Grandma but my lovely step-daughter told me no I would be Grandma and not having had any myself it was lovely and I felt so accepted.
What an unkind comment from your friend, truly thoughtless in my opinion.
Just look forward to your GC being born in November and enjoy!

SueDoku Tue 13-Aug-19 11:48:13

I was 60 when DGC1 arrived - the perfect time, as I was heading towards retirement and reduced my hours to 4 days a week a year later so that I could look after him on my day off smile
I've now got 3 DGC - am retired, and am still looking after the younger two for one day a week (the eldest now lives too far away for weekly care, but I see them regularly).
It's been great, as I've been able to build really strong bonds with all of them - and I look forward to being part of their lives for a long time (fingers crossed..!) wink

hereshoping Tue 13-Aug-19 11:51:25

64, I left it very late to have children and so did my daughter. Inevitable these days , I think.

Poppy11 Tue 13-Aug-19 11:57:55

Hi everyone
I am 66 my husband is63 and our only child a boy has said he has no intention of getting married or having children.
He has been in relationships with lovely girls and women(engaged once)
He is 37 and works professionally with loads of females(he is a professional photographer) no relationships though.so we will never be grandparents.please enjoy your gc and give them a hug for me. Thank you.

Wren5 Tue 13-Aug-19 12:00:55

I was 57 which was just last year & it was a total surprise when I found out I was to become a GM, my son always said when I'm 40, he is 35 so totally out of the blue smile It has totally changed my life very much for the better. I retired from a very stressful job at 55 & now have the time & energy to enjoy all the time I spend with him, bliss...smile

allule Tue 13-Aug-19 12:01:40

We reached 60 with no grandchildren, but by 70 we had nine! Lovely.

We may not have been the most active grandparents, but now at 80 benefit from tech savvy teenagers, keen to help us oldies.

nana15 Tue 13-Aug-19 12:07:07

49

nana15 Tue 13-Aug-19 12:08:51

bit cruel to say you won't see them grow up. Take no notice.