Hello. I've come to you lovely ladies for advice to see if we can help my MIL.
She's not a horrible person, and this is definitely not a MIL bashing thread! However, she is clearly resentful of the time I have with my husband (her son) and of any girlfriend her other sons bring home. Comments, tears etc. She is not as bad with her daughter's boyfriend, though does complain that she spends the whole weekend at his.
Like I say, she is not a horrible person, I just think her whole life has been about her children and now they are in their mid 20s/early 30s she is a little lost.
They are not a family who discuss things head-on. If it were my own mum I would suggest meeting up with friends, hobbies, a job etc, but she is not interested in any of this. I also think she has low confidence out in the world as she's never worked. She would be perfectly capable though, I just don't think she can see it.
I don't like to see her upset, but at the same time I can't wave a magic wand and turn her children back into toddlers for her! I think she presumed she would go from mother to grandmother and replace her children with grandchildren full time, but it hasn't worked out that way.
Is there anything else you can think of for me to do, or do I just take a step back and hope she gets there in the end?
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