My 3 children are all now adults who live independently and have partners etc. I have 2 sons and 1 daughter. The issue for me is both DS's have struggles with their mental health and both live in challenging relationships and life circumstances. I also have mental.health issues by the way. When I speak to DS's and we talk about what's going on for them I'm very calm and supportive but after I worry myself to death about them. And i dont just mean for short time. I mean the worry practically consumes me for many days , even weeks after. A friend has advised me just to keep conversations with DS's very light and not about what's going on in their lives . He said they are adults and to save my sanity I shouldn't ask too many questions about their struggles. Still offer to be there for them and offer practical help if I can, like babysitting, etc. But not get myself into situation where I'm worrying myself silly about things that I cannot change. Can anyone offer any advice please? I will just add that I have a lot of guilt about what kind of mother I was when they were growing up due to my own struggles with my mental health which exacerbates the worrying about DS's
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