OH and I have 5 children between us from previous marriages (he has 4, me 1)
We met when the kids were young teenagers but have no children together)
They are all adults now, 3 married with kids, 2 single.
That’s just a bit of background.
My story starts 7 years ago when I fell out with with 1 of my step children. Without going into detail I did not see him for all that time though did see his wife and kids occasionally
My OH continued to see them which was fine. He understood my reasons for not seeing him and supported and even agreed with a lot of my reasons but of course, it was son and, understandably, he still wished to see him and his GC. I have never had a problem with this.
Fast forward to 10 months ago and my OH and his wife (who I kept in loose contact with the odd text) asked me and stepson to bury the hatchet for the sake of everyone.
I felt ok to do this (not entirely happy) but we arranged meet-ups, family get togethes and all looked rosy.
I have since become very involved with his children, outings and treats etc.
So here’s the thing that I’m wondering if I’m being childish as it’s playing on my mind.
At Xmas, we all exchanged presents, all GC get the same spent on each other as do all the adult children and their OHs.
All our children give me and OH either joint presents or something we’ve asked for (always similar small values) except this step son bought my OH something very expensive (several hundred pounds) and myself something considerably cheaper (less than a tenner) and totally something I would not use in a million years (more of a male item imo)
To me it feels like I’m a ‘lesser’ person to him. I feel upset, not at the value of the present (or even the present itself) but at the vast disparity of what he spent on each of us.
My husband was very embarrassed by his gift as he knew how much these things cost but doesn’t seem to have noticed the disparity, and to be fair, I haven’t mentioned it to him.
I do have a tendency to over think things so my question is ‘am I being childish, should I just forget it and what would you think or do.
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
Kate Garroway-Care at home costs
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