My lovely brother died a month ago. Funeral now over and my SIL's grown up children have recently returned home. All are married, with children and live miles away or in other countries. They are lovely but have to return to work. I know they will make arrangements to be with their mother whenever they can.
I am concerned about how to support my SIL. I have rang a few times since the funeral but have only spoken once, the other times I've left messages on the answer phone which haven't been returned. She is a very private person. I want to be supportive but don't want to be intrusive.
I would do anything she wanted to support her. She could stay here or I go down. We could just talk. or walk the beaches, see a film. I have said she can ring if she wants just to talk. any time...even middle of night.
The thing is I'm not hearing from her at all and I'm worried about her. It's very early days and my husband and I think she may just want to be left alone for now. Should I ring again ...or just leave it for now? It maybe she needs some space and company or a listening ear might be more helpful later?
If I ring and she doesn't want me to she will think I am intrusive and insensitive. If I don't ring she might think we don't care. We really do. Wise gransnetters, please help.
Silent treatment - son
Caught in the act - neighbours
How to say it - 'no'