A good friend of my son committed suicide yesterday. We believe she had a mental breakdown, probably because of lockdown. She was not born in this country, had several friends but apparently no relatives.
My son contacted the police when she went missing and was completely distraught when they rang to say that his friend is dead. Now they have asked him to do the identification along with another of the dead person's friends. The death was violent and I told him to ask if her face was marked, because he is a sensitive soul and frets and worries about everything and I don't want him suffering nightmares afterwards. The police have reassured him that there may be some dried blood on her face but her injuries won't be visible.
I know he feels he wants to do this for his dead friend but I'm uneasy about it. I've told him the ID can be done from dental records but I think he feels a responsibility towards her, especially because he hadn't spoken to her for a couple of weeks and he didn't realise how bad her mental health was.
I've said I'll go along for moral support even though I won't be allowed to view the body.
What also worries me is that the police have said my son will need to sign some paperwork and I wonder does this mean he will be expected to take responsibility for the funeral etc which wouldn't be fair. He wouldn't even have that sort of money in any case. Does any other poster know what happens when there are no relatives?
We've never been in this situation before and really could do with some advice please.
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