earnshaw Sorry, but I think your daughters are only thinking of themselves and not what you want...after all, this will be 'your' funeral and surely they can bow to your wishes one last time. In saying that, I am well aware of family situations and how difficult they can be at times.
I hope to donate my body to the local university, but they are saying they won't accept it because there won't be any NoK approval, unfortunately DS is estranged along with his narc wife so even if they were in touch I wouldn't want her taking over and making it all about her anyway (which is what she would do).
Another option I checked into was a Body Farm as you can arrange body donation while still living...but, once they have finished with the body (usually 3-5 yrs) they return the remains to the family for a funeral etc so that doesn't really help my situation. So for now, I've just had to settle on Plan B as a direct cremation and the crematorium can scatter the ashes.
Either way, I want them to play 'I am Woman' (Helen Reddy) at full volume, while the crematorium staff share Champagne that I will be provide. LOL