My mum died from advanced bowel cancer on Wednesday night. She was only just 70. I am really struggling with the loss and would like any advice/suggestions on coping strategies.
I am 41 but have never had a partner or children. I live with my dad, who is 83 and has MS. He gets angry when I cry, telling me I am letting mum down and appears to be bottling everything up himself.
I have a full time job but am on compassionate leave until January as I could not cope with work at the moment.
I regret not making an effort to meet someone/leave home. My mum and I were so close and did everything together, which I am sure is making the loss even harder and I know her main worry right up to the end was how I would cope without her. I have assured her repeatedly since her diagnosis that I would be ok, but now it has actually happened I don’t know how to even begin to move forward and just can’t bear the thought of decades ahead without her.
I have considered counselling (which dad says I shouldn’t need) but I don’t know if this would help.
Any advice would be welcome.
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