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Travels with my toilet seat

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CariGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 09-Aug-12 10:13:55

In our latest guest blog post Tricia Senior explains the problems she's faced using loos when out and about due to her disability - and offers some solutions. Have you faced similar difficulties? Add your comments and suggestions here.

glammanana Thu 09-Aug-12 12:33:43

As most of my friends on GN know up until the beginning of this year I had problems having to find a loo as soon as the urge occurred and the problems I faced where horrendous,if I wanted to use the loo and there was a queue I would ask ant attendant for the access to the disabled loo but with me looking as though I am in good health this request was always refused in the end until the problem was solved I had a letter from Urology nurse stating the problem and all was fine then.The thing is never to take people at face value as problems are not always obvious.

soop Thu 09-Aug-12 13:03:21

glamma I empathise with you on this matter. flowers

glammanana Thu 09-Aug-12 13:07:28

soop flowersflowersthanks sweetie.

MumMum Thu 09-Aug-12 15:36:38

What a great article I expect quite a number of Grans will find it very illuminating ;)

gracesmum Thu 09-Aug-12 18:23:19

glamma my DH has a card requesting urgent toilet access, saying that his condition is non-infectious but requires immediate toilet access. Being a man, he never uses it, but it was issued by his gastrology department in respect of his ulcerative colitis.

sylvia1231 Sat 11-Aug-12 07:44:52

I find high toilets difficult! Being only 5ft and shrinking almost yearly, the lower the seat the better!
Squatting is the natural position and a hole in the floor would suit me.
I am very sympathetic, though, to anyone needing the higher seat.
Urgency to reach any toilet is my problem with Public toilets closing eveywhere.

paradisemerton Sat 11-Aug-12 08:30:10

You're in good company Tricia as both HM Queen and Prince Charles carry their own loo seats! Agree that the lower seats are a bind (sorry Sylvia 1231) and as a fit 5'7" I find them a challenge sometimes. Remind me of early schooldays though!

Bags Sat 11-Aug-12 08:52:31

Uriwells and Travel Johns are both good for camping – saves you having to trek out in the rain for the night pee!

goldengirl Sat 11-Aug-12 17:18:16

I'm horrified at your treatment glammanana. Did you follow it up? I do hope you complained because this should not be allowed to happen. The attendant might have had to do some clearing up if you - or anyone else in a similar position - couldn't 'hold on'!!! It's bad enough having urgency problems without having to deal with a jobsworth.

Not all disabilities involve a wheelchair. For example diabetics and those with catheters all need the extra space and [hopefully] more hygienic surroundings of the accessible toilet. If anyone has medical conditions they can carry a RADAR key for easy access - or a card as has been previously suggested.

jeni Sat 11-Aug-12 17:24:56

At 5'7" I find low loos impossible. I get stuck and can't get off unless there is something to pull up on (which is firmly fixed to the wall!)

AlieOxon Sat 11-Aug-12 18:18:04

This made me think and I realised just how low the loo was at the JR hospital in Oxford yesterday! I can manage but I do see the point.

trishs Thu 16-Aug-12 00:47:08

This petition, about public toilets, seems to be still open if anyone wants to sign....

AlieOxon Fri 17-Aug-12 10:06:18

I've signed it.

By the way, did anyone else catch the BBC comment about the Olympic site, that there were four times as many toilets for women as there were for men?
Don't know who said this, but they went on to say that someone got it right for once!

goldengirl Fri 17-Aug-12 21:07:30

An article in last week's Sunday Times by Daisy Waugh called 'My dignity went down the pan' describes how she attended a Festival to find - as one does - the ubiquitous long queue for the ladies loos. She tried to rally the women to fight for the cause whilst the men looked on and sniggered and continued their way into the urinals. Not one woman was brave enough to join in. No wonder we have to queue in the rain. So much for equality.

However the tables were apparently turned at the Olympic site when men were having to queue whilst the women were, for once, amply provided for! Hopefully they got an inkling of how we feel when we visit a place of entertainment.

The British Standards for public toilets suggest ratios for Men / Women's toilets.

Greatnan Fri 17-Aug-12 21:29:39

My sister has a bit of an 'urgency' problem and she had a terrible experience in the riots in Manchester last year. She had been to the theatre with a women's group and when they left the found all the buses had stopped running and most taxis. The toilets at the bus station had been locked and all the pubs and bars had shut. They finally managed to get a train and luckily it had a corridor and a toilet - however it was so filthy she said only her emergency would have made her use it. She thought she was going to have to do a 'Paula Radcliffe' which would have been difficult as she was wearing trousers.

kingdaddyking Mon 20-Oct-14 15:13:32

Yes its regarding travelling with Toilet Seats, my mate also bought a travel toilet seat from

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Nelliemoser Tue 29-Nov-16 23:50:36

Well I can still manage toilets but I go everywhere with my "Backfriend" device and another back support cushion. I have real difficulty with almost all other chairs in hotels, waiting rooms, public transport etc.

Most other peoples "comfy seats" are set at about an angle of 15degs which just puts my back at just the wrong angle or height and pushes it into squashing a nerve.
Because I have had this problem since my daughter was about two I have learnt to crouch down on my haunches instead and I can still rise up from that position without help. (Until my knees give out.) B* back will be aching like buggery by 6am though.

Synonymous Wed 30-Nov-16 00:22:25

Those commode seats are so difficult to keep clean and don't look in the least attractive.
Glad to say that we now have the (4" higher) comfort toilets in our new home but I keep a 'step' in the guest bathroom for shorter people. Hopefully everyone catered for! smile

The back friends are good but wish I could find one with a higher back for neck support.

GrandmaMoira Wed 30-Nov-16 18:27:06

Glammamama - I do agree that people are not very helpful if you look fit. I asked to use the disabled loo at a station and was refused. The other toilets were 84 steps down and 84 back up again! This would be difficult for a great many people. I now have a card saying I need urgent access to a toilet - I got it from the Bladder and Bowel Foundation. There are two issues - those with urgency problems, which I now have, and mobility issues. So many places have toilets up or down a lot of stairs. Many people don't consider themselves disabled but struggle with this.