Looking for love

Well done, Brabant. I agree with most of what you say, but not on the subject of political views, which to me reveal exactly what kind of person you are. I could have lived with somebody devoutly religious, as long as they didn't try to impose their views on me, but never with anybody who espoused right wing views. (Or with anybody who was racist, sexist, or homophobic).

Is the dog 55?

Thanks on the Imperfect bit Brabant. I often look in the mirror and wonder who on earth would want THAT,lol. I remember doing just that in my 60s and got on the net and had the most mindblowing affair within a few weeks .It completely changed my life and lasted ten years ! Its never too late for things to happen if your confident and like yourself.
Get dating girls. Its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Brabant , glad you found your "imperfect" life partner

"Imperfect" is probably tur of Hubby and me [ don"t know whether he would agree

We have companionship , and that is to be prized . Nice to have someone to discuss days events , etc.

Your dog must be very clever to do what he is told in 3 languages . My sons dog , who we look after from time to time doesn"t always do what he is told , in English , or else gives us a baleful stare . We love him to bits though.

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I couldn"t agree with your 5th sentence more .

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I have been on single sites but nothing came of the dates, nothing was there just didn't click with anyone. So all i am saying is i don't know about a younger brother has he got an older one.

I think singles groups like Spice are much better; just do lots of different activities and it widens your social group and gives you a better chance of meeting someone [more chance of meeting someone if you're not looking, if that makes sense].

I've just come back from a holiday her there was a preponderance of 55+ travellers. A surprising number of widowed remarriage s. they were glowing. It was sweet to see. Gives hope.

Where not her

I think it can be quite a scary place to be finding yourself looking for a new love later in life BUT not impossible I'm sure.

I think just to realise that there are nice people out there that you can be with, you just have to find them

Nonu I think you've hit it on the head: coming home and discussing the day's events is what I miss so much. After the Farewell Absent lunch I came home at 9p.m. and there was nobody there to welcome me and say 'ok, how was it?' and today I'm having a big clear-out of stuff and nobody to ask if we should keep this or chuck that and so it goes on......

Gally you're doing well Read your comment about weight loss and looking and feeling better. Positive signs.

Gally what a funny world we live in, I was walking home last night and a as I approached my door felt that I did not want to go home because I wished I could go in and there be no one there!!!

Things a bit shaky with DH and was not looking forward to entering the bad atmosphere that there was in the house.

The grass is always greener as they say

Gally ,

Gally and Cathy -

Gally, how about sending a pm to one of us, whatever time of the day you come home. Many of us are up very late and I for one would have been most interested to hear about your day out. I know nobody can ever replace you lovely husband, but at least you should feel there is always a friendly ear when you need it.

Cathy - I know just how you feel. I actually started going for a drink on my way home from work because I just couldn't face another night with my husband when I was stone cold sober. Now,I hardly drink at all and I love going into my empty, welcoming flat. My sister understood what I meant by 'silent screaming' in bed.

I don't suppose we need to say it again, but many of us are single by choice and do not want to find a partner.

Thank you for your very kind thoughts Greatnan

My friend is the same, she loves being on her own, she felt bad about it because she parted with a man friend she had due to wanting to be on her own, I explained to her that there is nothing wrong with wanting to be on your own at all!!

Can someone explain to me what the letters `DH` mean.Do the letters mean `Dear husband` or `Deceased husband`?Please,as I am as thick as two 40` planks nailed end to end.Thank you in advance.

Dear husband.

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Thank you Greatnan for your help and we meet again here so -to-speak

I thought the d stood for darling. Darling or dear I find continually having to refer to loved ones as DS, DH or DGD somewhat bordering on nauseating so I don't bother I believe these whimsical endearments were conceived on Mumsnet, possibly to soften some of the vitriol that's spewed out over there!

I agree BAnanas that's why I don't use D for dear or darling. I have made up some of my own, such as D1 for eldest daughter, GD8 means granddaughter who is eight. Mmmm the thought just occurred to me that maybe no one understands what I mean.

I prefer to avoid abbreviations in my posts, but great-grand-daughters does take a bit of time! I wonder if people would know what ggd means?

I think we'd work it out Greatnan. I didn't use abbreviations for a long time but do now, for speed!

I completely resonated with Deborah Moggach except for her last paragraph as I have not yet found anyone. I have been single for 10 years after 30 years of marriage, much of which was unhappy. My ex had a 7-month affair when I was pregnant and other affairs after that. I stayed because I am tenacious and optimistic but when the children were grown up I decided I had to get out. I have a busy, sociable life with some great friends and a job I enjoy, but retirement is looming for me too and I am very worried about being alone. I know there is plenty to do and I do plenty. I have just completed a very demanding 2-year diploma in order to have a new interest to pursue but it is a hard market even for younger people. The problem is how to meet available men. I have done dinner dating but apparently a lot of them are married and I lost confidence in it, and although I did have a wonderful affair with someone he turned out to be a disaster. I also had a great couple of years with an old friend but a lot of it was long-distance and it was not meant to be. I joined 2 introduction agencies but the quality was pretty bad. Many agencies cannot help older women at all. Should I try a really expensive one? I belonged to an internet dating site for a while but the quality was pretty dire there too and I do worry that it can be dangerous. Group meetings of things seem to be attended mainly by women. Where are the men? All single women agree there are hardly any men. There are apparently 5 reasons for this: 1 There are many more gay men than women 2 They go for younger women 3 There are more men than women in prison 4 They die earlier either at war or because of risky pursuits 5 They have been so badly hurt in the past or have a lot of money they don't want to lose that they will not get involved again. What on earth does one do? I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone, it is lonely. Sometimes I feel very weepy about the waste and sadness and lonliness of it. My kids are great and I see quite a lot of them but it doesn't solve the problem. I am fairly resourceful but I just don't know what to do about this. It's not as if I'm an old frump - far from it. If you're unhappily single, what do you do?