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All you need is a good man

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CariGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 25-Apr-13 07:40:11

In middle age Anna Wallas came to the conclusion that the feminists had it wrong and that having a good man to look after is what happiness is all about.

Do you agree? Read her guest blog post and let us know.

Greatnan Thu 25-Apr-13 07:53:39

What can one say in the face of such utter garbage? If she wants to be a Stepford wife that is up to her, but how dare she pretend to speak for all women. Some of us respect and value ourselves and don't need validation from a man. No, before you all jump on me, I am not saying that you can't do that and at the same time get pleasure out of looking after a man - just that it is extremely arrogant of her to think she knows what all women want and need.
Still, I suppose it gets her some attention.

Ella46 Thu 25-Apr-13 08:02:54

Why do so many people think we want to read their random thoughts?

MiceElf Thu 25-Apr-13 08:13:49

Smug, self satisfied, sad. And who in their right mind would pay £16.99 for this twaddle?

shysal Thu 25-Apr-13 08:18:10

A good man to look after?. For companionship and leisure activities, maybe, but why shouldn't he look after himself. I wouldn't even expect him to look after me. I don't have a man in my life and I am not looking!

Notso Thu 25-Apr-13 08:25:19

I can't identify with anyone who derives pleasure from folding even their own jumpers, much less those of their husband.

No sex because they wanted to proceed with integrity? #howsmugisthat?

j08 Thu 25-Apr-13 08:35:17

Oh look. She's been married a whole eighteen months. hmm

Greatnan Thu 25-Apr-13 08:36:42

Of course her married lover told her his marriage was over - it's what they do! I wonder how happy his ex wife and his children are about the arrangements.

Sel Thu 25-Apr-13 08:52:02

I don't think she's claiming to speak for all women, it's her view and she's entitled to it. I think life is a series of compromises and rigidity doesn't work. I enjoy complete financial independence from the man in my life and feel we are pretty equal intellectually. He still works long hours in a high powered job, I don't, so I do take pleasure in providing good food and (ahem) home comforts. It's my choice and I think that's key, he is very appreciative and would do anything for me in return.

I've never believed in traditional male/female roles just in each party doing what they can to make life easier for the other.

FlicketyB Thu 25-Apr-13 09:20:55

The novelty will wear off.

LullyDully Thu 25-Apr-13 09:29:10

Marriage is about taking care of each other equally. {haven't read blog yet}

MiceElf Thu 25-Apr-13 09:29:25

Especially when she starts washing his mucky pants and socks.

annodomini Thu 25-Apr-13 09:30:50

She probably irons his socks and underpants too. hmm

sunseeker Thu 25-Apr-13 09:36:41

I have always believed that marriage/relationship is a partnership. There were things my DH was good at and things I was good at, but these things were interchangeable - if I was late getting home from work he would start on the evening meal, if I got home first I would start it and we would finish it together. The idea that my happiness depended on looking after a man never entered my head nor his. We enjoyed each others company and supported each other - equals.

Flowerofthewest Thu 25-Apr-13 09:45:36

A good man to look after, who is she kidding. I have a lovely man and we look after each other. If I (God forbid) lost him I know that I am an independent, intelligent and self sufficient woman who will be able to live without a man. My views are the same a sunseekers. Its a partnership

whenim64 Thu 25-Apr-13 09:56:35

Quote........'I now believe that behind every hardened feminist there is a woman looking to be loved and saved by a man.'

Well, behind this hardened feminist there is a woman who is NOT looking to be loved and saved (????? saved? Is she kidding???) by a man, or anyone else for that matter.

For those who choose to be in a loving partnership, great - retain your independence - it doesn't prevent you BOTH nurturing and taking care of each other.

Keep your opinions to yourself, you silly girl - you're letting the side down!

gracesmum Thu 25-Apr-13 09:57:06

If you need someone to look after, get a dog. They really appreciate you, always welcome you with a smile,don't tell you about their day, never nag, don't get drunk and even if they snore, somehow that's acceptable. grin
(No I haven't read her blog either - I wonder why?)

Stansgran Thu 25-Apr-13 10:00:17

Feel sorry for the ex somehow. She must have still loved him for there to be fall out over the DH does a lot more looking after me since retirement a cup of tea in bed a g&t in the evening but previously had barely had enough time to get his hair cut. I would have been a appalled if he had gone off with someone else just as life was getting less hectic.

whenim64 Thu 25-Apr-13 10:11:15

gracesmum grin so true!

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soop Thu 25-Apr-13 11:23:18

Having read and inwardly digested the blog, I now need a large sick bag.

soop Thu 25-Apr-13 11:24:22

gracesmum grin

Grannyeggs Thu 25-Apr-13 11:52:59

Those who haven't read the blog,I beg you don't. It will raise your blood pressure and make you want to kick something. A load of smug self deluding self satisfied tosh.angry

Notso Thu 25-Apr-13 11:57:19

I love this thread!! grin