I feel and understand so much said and felt by Lindylooby,Mandylou and Spindrift,especially. My OH died suddenly too,just over 4 years ago and 3 months before my daughter's wedding. Yes, I have now tried to build a new life by volunteering, meeting friends when possible and joining a couple of organisations. All this has taken a long time and does help. but basically, like Spindrift, I am a 'people' person who likes company and finds it so hard not to have that everyday chat ,someone to share an ordinary day with ,especially the weekends, or to make that cup of tea,or coffee,or a meal for.
There is no spontaneity anymore, in that all outings have to be pre arranged with friends and then sometimes they have to pull out through their own family committments. I have one friend who is divorced, but all my others still have their OHs and are making the most of being retired. --often going on holiday etc,
Like I used to be, they are sympathetic, but have no real notion of what being a widow means.
Thinking of you all,especially Lindylooby and knowing that things WILL
get better eventually, how ever long that takes. You will be in my thoughts particularly on the 17th.
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