Going it alone

Aka what a perfect quotation.

Sorry Sel, what is a PM? not up to all the abbreviations yet lol.
Good morning by the way xx

PM is Person Message Spin x

Sorry Spindrift I didn't want to expand on 'PM' and sound patronising. If you hit the box to the right of the 'log out' box up above, you'll see messages.

There may be widowers too on here thinking what about us. Three widowers in Durham have written a book"after She's Gone" it's on sale I believe at AgeUK. John Clark , Philip Tattersall and can't remember the third.

Yes I sometimes think widowers are forgotten, their loss is as great as ours, sometimes even more so, if it had been the other way round here, my hubby would have been completely lost, he refused to learn how to cook, couldn't even use a microwave & he was an electrician lol. But again there was a widower in this village, every widow in the area used to take him food, clean his house etc , he must have thought he was in Paradise lol, I think he found it hard to find any time to be alone at all, he wasn't rich, was quite grumpy so I don't know what the attraction was

Lindylooby, I shall be thinking of you today, you have had such a long wait for the funeral. I hope the occasion goes well, and that you and the family manage some smiles along with the tears.

Lindylooby

Lindylooby.Very best wishes for today. Hope all goes well. and

Lindylooby My thoughts are with you today. I hope the funeral brings a little peace to you and some small comfort. to you and a hug.

Thinking of you today lindylobby

Lindy Best wishes for today ((hugs))

(((hugs))) from me too

Very best wshes for today, Lindy. I hope you have a few happy moments as your family and friends reminisce about the memories they share.

Hope all went ok Lindy, I found I couldn't start to try to build a life on my own until the funeral was over, I had to wait 9 days because it was Christmas & there was a backlog, Take care

Lindylooby.

I too am sorry you are going through this awful time. I haven't been throughout this myself, thank heaven, but I have three close friends who have. They are all going through it in their own ways, and as someone has said, as time goes on it doesn't fade away but they learn how to manage the grief and carry on with their lives. for you brave ladies.

Life changes completely when you loose a husband/partner, no-one can describe the feeling, yes it does get better as time goes on, but it's always there at the back of your mind, you are alone, he/she is never coming back, I am lucky I suppose there is nothing that I hadn't said or regretted not saying to my husband even though he went so suddenly, yes we all deal with it in our own way & our own time

Sorry I have not been on here for a few days. Mike's funeral on Friday was a great celebration of his life. There were about 100 people at the crematorium, The Humanist service was beautiful and lots of attendees said how personal and special it was, and they learnt things they didn't know about Mike before.
The day was traumatic in as much as it was so final, but the children and I all said that Mike would have enjoyed it! Our 19year old granddaughter summed it up by saying' the celebration after the funeral was lovely with everyone reminiscing about granddad - but I expected to turn round and see him in the middle of all the laughter and chatter with a pint of bitter in his hand!'
Each day is still a struggle but I know that with time the pain will diminish slightly. I will never stop missing him, or loving him, but I/we will learn to go on with life without him.
Our 3 year old grandson believes Mike is the man in the moon and each night we all go and say goodnight to him and tell him we love him! I talk to his photograph all the time and feel closer to him.
Thank you for all of your support over the last few weeks, and your good wishes. May I take this opportunity of wishing you all the very best in the future, if you are on the path of grief as me, I hope that time will help, if you are lucky enough to be with your partner still, remember to have patience and tell them you love them often.
Lindylooby xx

Lindy xx

I am glad your day had some really memorable moments Lindy It was lovely that so many attended . Be kind to yourself now and I hope you will find some comfort with your friends on Gransnet. Let's have a and a .

Lindy

Lindy how positive. Funny isn't it, that feeling of 'oh they would have really enjoyed this' at a loved one's funeral. Do give yourself time - you've done so much and held it together.

Glad your day went well, that is one of the biggest hurdles & you have come through it.
We had a Celebrant doing my husband's funeral, none us are religious so thought this was the right way & so glad we did it that way, his coffin was a cardboard one with a picture of a field with a red tractor & a driver, also a sheepdog, he loved his tractors, the mustic played was by Abba & Roy Orbison, again his favourites, so many people came & I didn't know a lot of them as they had been work colleagues of his, they all introduced themselves & said how wonderful & apt the coffin was & how nice it was to look at during the service.
You will of course come across quite a few hurdles, but try to be strong, it does get better as time goes on even though at the moment you might not think so, I didn't, we will never forget them or stop loving them, but it is a tribute to them if we make the best of the rest of our lives

Sorry late on this as been away! Just to say so pleased funeral went so well if that does not sound tactless!

Thinking of you Lindy and pleased sounds like you have lovely family to help you through