Going it alone

I wrote the blog for this thread. It is now over 2 years since John died and it is incredible to think how far, in some respects, I have moved on and how little in others and sometimes, when things become too much, I do pose the question 'what is the point?'. I have a wonderful family and a strong support network and that is what keeps me going.
Grannygrunt Even though I don't know exactly how you are feeling right now, I have a very good idea and know you are in a very strange, alien and unworldly place. All I can say is that you have to work your way through the next days, weeks and months at your own pace and do things the way you want to, not how others think you should. I am still on that journey: some days are easier than others, but as I said in the blog, it isn't a place I would choose to be. You will have a huge amount of support from Gransnet, support for which I was very grateful - and still am. I hope you find this helps you too.

Lindy, very thoughtful to bump .

Grannygrunt, this helped me, and other widows so much last year, perhaps you may get some comfort and advice from the blog and forums.

Doesn't anyone write on this page any more? Hope you are all safe from all the flooding, we have been lucky here, had a bit of damage with the wind but nothing compared to other places

Anyone got the blueprint how to build an ark? we are getting torrential rain every day at the moment, lucky though it is rain not snow. Hope you are all keeping safe & well. Try to keep warm & dry xx

Good Morning everyone, haven't we had some strange weather this January, today there was a fantastic sunrise here, very red sky so waiting for the bad weather to start (hope not ). Toby is growing fast & is a great companion, though hard work at times, well he is only a baby still only 4 months old, but he is a fast learner, he & his sister have a good play every morning when my daughter brings Sika here, usually tires them out then I can get on with things. I hope you are all keeping well & warm this colder weather
would be nice if we could have one together but we can in spirit xx

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Soop,
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Marelli,
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Marelli,
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Hello, Roderick - pleased to meet you. I hope you are able to find a bit of support on here. As Charleygirl said, quite a few men have signed up lately so you may find having the chance to hear how they feel about things might help you a little. I hope so.

Hi Roderick we're a lively bunch on here on the whole. Hope you enjoy our company. As a widow of 10 years I have some appreciation of what it's like.

Welcome Roderick I'm sure you will enjoy

Hallo Roderick, nice to speak to you but sorry it is in difficult circumstances. Hopefully we can ease things a little for you, we are quite a lively 'off the wall' bunch. Look forward to seeing you around.

Hi Roderick - Hope you enjoy GN - and welcome.

Roderick I have been divorced since 1988, not what I wanted, and it does get easier. As soop said, hopefully you will find some friends on this forum. Quite a few men have signed up recently so you are not alone!

Dear Roderick I am hoping with all my heart that you discover some caring new friends on this forum. I am rooting for you.

Men suffer too but they are less keen to talk about it.
I lost my first wife through leukaemia after less than 10 years of marriage leaving me with 2 adopted children when I was 36
I remarried and the marriage was happy for several decades ,giving us 2 sons.
But in later years her depression returned and she became an alcoholic.
We divorced in 2007 and I now live on my own

PS ,Thanks for your sympathy,I have had tragedy in my life,my first marriage was less than 10 years when she died of leukaemia leaving me with 2 adopted children,the youngest 2

Roderick Welcome and sorry to hear of your plight, I assume your divorce was not something you welcomed or wanted in which case the scars can last for years, as you have found. I guess all we can do is try and move on, as difficult as that obviously is and is sadly far easier to say than do. I hope you find it in yourself to do so but I'm sure you will find sympathetic ears and advice based on experience on here if you choose to share your concerns.

Roderick Welcome. You will hopefully make some new and supportive friends on this forum.

Hello,
My wife divorced me after 40 years of marriage and 2 sons That was in 2007 but it does not get any easier,Roderick in Leicestershire

I hope you all survived Christmas as best you could under the circumstances, not a good time for us but we have to make the best of it, now it's a New Year tomorrow, I do hope it's a better year for you all, best foot forward & I hope things go well for you
HAPPY NEW YEAR ALL xxx

well done Spindrift the show sounded brill, sounds like your all having a good time with the new pup Toby