i have been on the throw's of divorce ever since my second child was born; never got to doing it --because I had nowhere to take children, back then there was no help for mothers with very young; my mother in law was very nice, but I couldn't ask her, mine had died when I was a child, there was no-one to turn to! so we kissed and made promises ;
one month later he had forgotten all promises! why was I discontent --well he was so lazy nothing got done, which meant I ended up doing my jobs and all his jobs, because after weeks, months of waiting , I could stand it any-longer, so I did them!
then a year after 2nd baby , number 3 arrived; I was constantly tired, hardly any sleep as 2nd baby still waking up twice a night, and 3rd baby needing feeds during night for first couple of months then being disturbed by 2nd baby's crying in night; this went on for a whole year !
in all this year my hubby didn't get up once ! oh yes he agreed to do so but never did -along with all his other promises too.
so our lives went on sometimes good but always a hard work, he enjoyed football Saturdays and sundays, I had the kids; then I made him take kids with him--now I felt guilty, but he still played! also I got to demanding we all went out after sunday dinner, he moaned -he had been out all week, wanted to sit indoors and watch football; but by now I had had enough- I insisted !
we couldn't afford holidays away, just days out until the eldest was 9yrs , we then went camping --enjoyed it ! then went camping every year. of course I still had to pack and shop, plus cook, most meals on little primer stove, but at least I didn't have to dust tidy or wash up, the later being done by `he' and of course the driving.
here we are ten grandchildren later still bogged down by his laziness,
me still looking for way out without hurting our family. now pensioners, we have not been hubby and wife for good many years--even stopping sleeping together did not impress him enough to change his laziness.
in fact all my life has been for others, I just cant do things for myself now.
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