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Daughter is not speaking to me

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Grammaretto Thu 08-Feb-18 22:42:35

We fell out about two weeks ago when I was staying with her, over some minor irritations which developed into a full blown row. We both said unkind things but since then I have tried to phone to make up (she didn't answer), left messages, sent an email and some gifts for the children. I don't know what to do next! I hate this situation. We don't live very near and she is alone a lot with a toddler and a baby. I want to help her in any way I can but I feel she resents me. Any helpful suggestions?

Christinefrance Fri 09-Feb-18 06:51:03

Give her a little space Grammaretto and time to cool down and reflect. Once some time has elapsed try again to heal things. It can be stressful with small children and we often take our frustrations out on our nearest and dearest. I'm sure this too will pass.

OldMeg Fri 09-Feb-18 07:30:10

You’ve done your bit. Now it’s up to her. You won’t help the situation if you overdo the repentance and by doing that you are making out it was all your fault.

Give her space.

NfkDumpling Fri 09-Feb-18 07:42:31

Ditto above.

ninny Fri 09-Feb-18 09:57:20

Why don't you send her a nice card not email, write down everything you need to say, don't blame her just say how you feel and that you are upset that this has happened, you love her and the children more than anything and you only want the best for them etc. etc. Then say please get in touch soon miss seeing speaking to you. Put the ball in her court and wait until she gets in touch which I am sure she will when she has calmed down.

Grammaretto Sat 10-Feb-18 16:01:34

Thanks for your suggestions. I did consider writing a nice card but ended up sending a small parcel for the children. Too much repentance probably but she is melting a little. We've only texted but I think the rift is beginning to heal now. I will remember to give her space.

mumofmadboys Sat 10-Feb-18 16:26:04

Glad things are settling down. It's sad when families fall out. Sometimes least said, soonest mended.

ninny Sat 10-Feb-18 18:19:53

Pleased things have settled down and hopefully will be all back to normal soon.