Hello, I speak to late Mum's sister, my aunt, every other day. I last went to see her in late 2019, before Covid hit, and am planning to go over again this September.
From our phone calls she appears to be fit and well, with full mobility, and managing to live independently. She does her washing/ironing and cooks for herself every day. However, up until now she has had a very caring neighbour to call on, but this neighbour has been away for months now caring for her parents, and now her father has sadly died so she won't be back for some time. This neighbour used to help my aunt in many small ways, ie taking her bin out, changing a light bulb, she did the majority of her shopping during early lockdown. I know my aunt misses her help, as well as her company.
I've started to wonder if my aunt is really managing as well as I think. Her land line stopped working in early December and she couldn't cope with sorting it out on her own, I had to do it from here, and involved her neighbour. I do have LPOA but my aunt hasn't actioned it yet. I bought her a mobile phone and even with the simplest instructions, she couldn't work it. She's had to ask her neighbour to help her with it twice in the past five months.
My aunt has just announced she would like to move to a flat in a block about a minute from where she lives. There are four flats in the block, and the residents are of a similar age to her.
I have encouraged her to look at assisted living instead. Do you think this is a good idea? When I suggested it she said 'what about your inheritance'. I am worried she will continue to struggle alone, secretly.
She doesn't need full time care, but she does need someone to help her occasionally. I should add that she is very tiny, at 4 foot 2" tall, and some things are difficult for her - like pushing a big wheelie bin out for collection.
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