Fleurpepper
kittylester
I think a chat to his gp or memory clinic is a good idea - he could need a nedication tweak.
A nursing home is not any more likely to be able to get him to drink - in fact he might slip through the net.
I hope this won't upset or shock anyone. But my mother wanted to 'slip through the net', and I think if I ever get dementia or Alzheimers, so would I. Would that really be a bad thing? I would not wish to be kept going through all the indignities of the above for a long time.
Again, apologies if some find this shocking. This is how I sincerely think about this. And I would not wish my OH's and my children's lives to be so strongly affected for year to come.
I understand where you are coming from.
My mum looked after our stepdad at home, it was horrendous for all of us. He didn’t believe anything we said, he was verbally abusive and prone to outburst of anger, he was having mini strokes which made his vascular dementia worse each time.
He was admitted to hospital via A & E after a fall and the medical team decided he needed to be discharged to a home, and not able to go home to Mum.
We found a home, close to the sea, he could see it from his room (he loved the sea & beach all his life) it was probably the shabbiest one we looked at, but the management and staff came across as caring.
He was there for just under two years, the staff were outstanding and so very patient with him and the other residents.
I would urge anyone looking for a home, to research, speak to other residents families if possible, Google away, and do not be swayed just because the home looks nice as it’s the staff that’s important.