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Did adults use fibs to control your behaviour?

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vampirequeen Sun 07-Jan-18 10:28:30

'I'll send you to Mr's Cole' jogged my memory about the way adults in my life would fib to me to try to control my behaviour and how I believed them.

My mam didn't want us to go into the attic because it was dirty and dangerous. Nothing stopped us sneaking up there until she told us about the ghost. This ghost didn't like children and would throw them back down the stairs. As I had recently fallen down the stairs we totally believed her and never went up there again.

My grandma encouraged us to be quiet when going upstairs by telling us that there was a man who lived in the cockloft and if we made too much noise he would come down, take us back up with him and we'd never be seen again.

Grandma also had a fear of being cursed by gypsies. She told us that gypsies stole children and if they were coming door to door we had to go upstairs, lay on the floor and hide until they'd gone. She would also hide. Even now I hide from door to door gypsies lol.

Jalima1108 Sun 07-Jan-18 10:35:13

shock Oh no, DM would never refuse a gypsy who came to the door otherwise she thought the gypsy would curse you and you'd have bad luck.
She always bought a sprig of heather, a piece of lace etc.

Parents still do this though - Father Christmas's elves are watching to see if you're being good etc.

Jane10 Sun 07-Jan-18 10:55:41

I was irritated at the other Gran this year telling the DGSs to behave themselves on Christmas day or Santa would come back and take their toys away!! Luckily they didn't listen and carried on rumbustuously but what a silly lie.

Jalima1108 Sun 07-Jan-18 11:21:24

I've never heard that one!
Rather daft but unkind too.

Jane10 Sun 07-Jan-18 11:23:59

She just made it up on the spur of the moment.

Bellanonna Sun 07-Jan-18 11:27:59

I told my small girls that the Swiss Cheese plant would bite if they touched it. They believed me.

Grandma70s Sun 07-Jan-18 11:34:16

Nobody lied to me in that way when I was a child.

I may have been guilty of telling my children they had to be good to be sure Father Christmas would come. That’s a sort of lie and veiled threat. My parents wouldn’t have said it

annodomini Sun 07-Jan-18 11:57:18

When I claimed not to be well enough to go to school, my Mum would threaten me with 'the school board man' - ie the school attendance officer. I never found out if there was any basis to this threat because I gave in and went to school.

Greyduster Sun 07-Jan-18 13:16:33

My mother resorted to all the usual ones; the one that frightened the life out of me was the threat to put me in a children's home if I didn’t behave and I would never see my father again! She could be quite a piece of work, my mother.

Jane10 Sun 07-Jan-18 13:43:21

Yikes greyduster!

harrigran Sun 07-Jan-18 20:14:09

My mother was always threatening to send me to boarding school so she would not have to bother with me. It never occured to me that she would not be able to afford the fees.

paddyann Sun 07-Jan-18 20:23:55

never needed to be told lies ,mum just said to dad "speak to them" he lowered his newspaper,looked at us and said "girls you're mother says you're too noisy/misbehaving" and we stopped.He never lifted a finger to us ..well apart from smacking me for swearing when I was just 2 ...and he cried along with me .I never swore again.To this day .

Grandma70s Sun 07-Jan-18 20:35:46

Where did you learn to swear when you were only 2? You must have got it from somewhere.

SueDonim Sun 07-Jan-18 20:49:26

Whenever I asked my grandad where he was going he'd reply 'To find a wigwam for a horse's bridle.' I suppose that wasn't strictly a lie as I knew it was nonsense talk!

MamaCaz Sun 07-Jan-18 21:02:56

When I was 4, I remember my mum giving me the warning about Father Christmas being at the top of the chimney, saying he would know if I was naughty. Although I believed in Father Christmas, I remember that I didn't believe that warning, even at that young age.

Also when i was around that age, Mum would sometimes make my brother and i stick out our tongues if she suspected we were lying, saying that there would a black line on it if we were. She also said, if one of us pulled a sulky face, that it would stay like that if the wind changed direction. I never believed a word of it!

cornergran Sun 07-Jan-18 21:05:17

Not my parents but on admission hospital when I was five to have my tonsils out the nursing staff told a terrified little me that if I cried my parents wouldn’t come back. I did and they did, still remember it vividly.

GrandmaKT Sun 07-Jan-18 22:06:56

Yes, we were told at infant school that God was watching us at all times. We were told we would go to hell if we told lies, didn't go to church on Sunday, took communion without going to confession. We were told that babies who died without being baptised or older relatives who died without taking confession would not go to heaven. The list of misdemeanours was endless - as we grew older we learnt to take them with a pinch of salt, but as young children, we took them all literally and were petrified.

NannyTee Sun 07-Jan-18 22:23:08

Ahh how cruel.

Nanabilly Sun 07-Jan-18 22:32:18

Before we could read my mother used to tell us that chocolate bars were adults only and not for children . Apparently it said so on the wrapper.
Until the day she died she never shared her chocolate

Jalima1108 Sun 07-Jan-18 23:33:17

Oh yes, I was told the wind would change direction and I would stay like that if I looked sulky.

Teetime Mon 08-Jan-18 09:13:10

My mother too threatened me with Boarding School and as an avid fan of the Four Mary's and Dormitory Wisteria I longed to go to get away from her.

grumppa Mon 08-Jan-18 09:27:19

My mother threatened me with taking me away from boarding school.

paddyann Mon 08-Jan-18 09:29:34

Grandma70's one of my older sisters school friends thought it would be funny to teach me the F word.....she was around 10 or 11 .She knew fine well I'd get into trouble for it ..wee toerag .

eazybee Mon 08-Jan-18 09:33:32

SueDonim To find a wigwam for a horse's bridle
Jogged my memory: my mother, when asked about the contents of exciting parcels at Christmas time, would say helpfully, "it's a whim-wham for a mustard mill".

She also told me, aged two, that if I continued to grab at the red-hot pokers in my grandmother's garden I would burn my hands, and I believed her for years.

dragonfly46 Mon 08-Jan-18 10:19:41

I used to be told jokingly that if I didn't behave they would send me back to my real mother. Never believed it.

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