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Happy Valentine's Day

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HelpfulHands Wed 14-Feb-18 08:26:00

Hi Everyone,

Do you (still) send your kids/grandkids Valentine's cards?

Humbertbear Wed 14-Feb-18 08:35:51

I gave my DD a box of heart shaped chocolates this morning. I think it must be very hard for her and all the other single people out there even tho we know that Valentines Day is just a hyped up commercial concoction. It’s easy to say ‘we ignore it’ when you are in a relationship. My 6 year old GD was here yesterday and made mummy and daddy heart shaped biscuits, a card and heart shaped paper chains! All her own idea. I think she is going to be a romantic.

Marydoll Wed 14-Feb-18 09:12:12

My DD is in her thirties and engaged to be married. My DH sent her a card as usual, as he has done since she was a wee girl. However, we found it really difficult to find one that was appropriate! Every year he says that this will be the last time.

mollie Wed 14-Feb-18 09:18:26

I sent one to my six year old GD last year but couldn’t find one suitable this year so haven’t. I left it too late to make her one, bad timing on my part. I suspect she won’t mind.

Harris27 Wed 14-Feb-18 09:47:08

Im amused by this as my granddaughter gets one of her mum every year? We do cards at nursery where I work and the children take them home . I hope this year my one unmarried son gets one and it leads to better things as he's still single!!just a mothers wish!!

GrandmaL Wed 14-Feb-18 09:47:12

DH sends one ‘ in secret’ to both DDs, has done for years so it’s a bit of a tradition. I think they think it’s sweet of him, one is 30 and single and one is 33 and separated so maybe those are the only ones they’ll get.
Not starting it with GDs though!

maryhoffman37 Wed 14-Feb-18 09:50:06

No, of course not! That would be weird and creepy.

Telly Wed 14-Feb-18 09:51:04

Never occurred to me!

Teetime Wed 14-Feb-18 09:52:19

No i have never done that and DH and I don't do any of that either. I did give him some heart shaped chocs this morning but mostly as a little thank you for the nice birthday weekend he just gave me.

ajanela Wed 14-Feb-18 09:53:06

Why would you send family members Valentine cards? It is about romantic love. I think when they are older they will be very disappointed it was from their dad and not a boyfriend or they might presume it was from their dad and it was from a boy who was interested. How thrilling when you are a teenager to have a secret admirer!

Sharing a heart shaped box of chocolates with the whole family would be fun but maybe giving a family member a box because you don't think they have.a love interest might be making them feel worse rather than better. Many people are grateful to be single.

I think best to leave it to the romantic.

Greenfinch Wed 14-Feb-18 09:54:36

I must be very unromantic.I have never sent one to anyone except my DH before we were married. I would never dream of sending one to DD or DGC.I don't see the point .Bah Humbug!smile

FlorenceN Wed 14-Feb-18 09:56:45

Card to my DH only. IMO Valentines Day is for lovers, for want of a better word and not really for father/daughters/grandchildren etc.

damewithaname Wed 14-Feb-18 09:58:00

Love all around. Give cards, gifts to those you feel like giving to.. Happy Heart Day!!

suzied Wed 14-Feb-18 10:07:30

I think it’s a bit weird sending romantic cards to anyone you aren’t in a romantic relationship with ( or would like to be). I forgot it was Valentine’s Day so no cards from me, but might make him a heart shaped piece of toast later. I don’t think I would have liked a Valentines Day card from my Dad tbh.

Kim19 Wed 14-Feb-18 10:07:31

Nope, never ever had one from my husband in all the years I knew him. He thought very lowly of the 'unnecessary' celebration even though he was a romantic to the core. Far more than me, I might add.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Wed 14-Feb-18 10:07:41

No, I've never done that. It might lead them up the garden path by wondering about a secret admirer. As a widow Valentine's Day is not for me but I am thinking about those wonderful boxes of pink chocolate made by Lindt. Oh stop it - remember the diet.

Mauriherb Wed 14-Feb-18 10:13:13

It's never occurred to me to do that

Apricity Wed 14-Feb-18 10:15:27

I must confess that at first I was really puzzled by this question. Growing up in Oz in the 1950s and 60s Valentines Day was mostly unrecognised and seen as a rather sentimental "American" thing. When it started to become more mainstream (or more commercialised) over the last 20 or 30 years it only applied to lovers, whatever their actual status. My first thought is why you would send a Valentine to your children or grandchildren? I dearly love my 3 children and 7 grandchildren and try to express that in many ways but would never send them a Valentine card.

However, on balance, I guess that it doesn't matter how you show someone that you love them as long as you do it. That is the most important thing and we all do it in our own way. So I started this post with a sniff and ended with with a sniffle. A Valentine bouquet to all Grans. What a lovely bunch. 🌺 🌸🌼🌹 🌺 💐

Blinko Wed 14-Feb-18 10:20:23

No. Never have????

grannyactivist Wed 14-Feb-18 10:32:32

No, not something we do either. My eldest son calls it a 'Hallmark' invention and neither he nor his wife send cards to each other. The Wonderful Man left me a gift of a CD this morning, yesterday I bought myself lots of flowers (from Lidl) and told him he didn't need to bother.

AlgeswifeVal Wed 14-Feb-18 10:36:33

Don’t send any. I don’t receive any either. Oh dear, poor me. I suppose I could send one to myself.

Witzend Wed 14-Feb-18 10:41:51

I've never sent any to dcs or Gdcs. I suspect Gdcs (one and a half and not far off 3) are rather more interested in other Granny stuff - like 'helping' me mix up pancake batter yesterday! It ended up a mite lumpy but pancakes still tasted fine.

The elder one was busy at nursery yesterday, making a card for Mummy and Daddy.
Dh is away, but phoned this morning to say he'd left me something in a drawer - a card and favourite chocs.
I had forgotten to get him anything before he went away! Don't think he's bothered, though.

GabriellaG Wed 14-Feb-18 10:42:37

Yes...all 5 of them. They are my one true loves, however, my ex still sends me a Valentine's card and flowers as he has done every year since I've known him. This is the 22nd year since our divorce and I have someone else in my life but the love and respect we had for each other, still (in some measure) endures.

henetha Wed 14-Feb-18 10:44:19

I never had a card of any description, Valentine or otherwise, in all the 32 years I was married to my husband (now deceased).
But this morning I had an online card from someone I didn't expect to get anything from. Gosh. {blush}

David1968 Wed 14-Feb-18 10:47:26

Sending Valentine cards to lots of people appears to be quite usual in the USA. So I send an "e-card" Valentine to all my family over there.