I’ve seen a lot of threads on here were people have difficulty with their Daughters in Law. Now that I am Gran myself I look back on my own behaviour as DIL and I’m not proud of myself. I never got on with my MIL right from the get go. From the moment my then boyfriend took me home to meet her she clearly took against me, and that first meeting probably set the tone for our future relationship. I was 15 and knew nothing. But it didn’t matter we just got on with it and tolerated each other for years.
Once I became a mum in my 20s though it did matter. I completely resented any advice she gave or any help she offered. My own Mum could do no wrong of course, but the MIL just rubbed me up the wrong way. She didn’t help herself though by smacking my daughter once, and of course I hit the roof.
I would never have deprived her from seeing with my daughter, but my marriage broke up and my ex just stopped taking her to see them. Even so they were welcome to come round if they wanted too. But they moved away from the area and they never made any effort to come and see her. I didn’t have the means to take her and her relationship with her Dad’s family just faded away. I’m not going to deny it made my life easier to be able to move on, but as an older wiser head I do feel some guilt at not trying to help her maintain her relationship with her Dad’s family.
Should women have equal pay and opportunities?
Good Morning Friday 19th April 2024