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Moaning thread

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Lessismore Wed 31-Jul-19 22:22:15

The weather is awful, it's not even August and the nights are drawing in. My husband has an irritating cough and the cat has disappeared.

BradfordLass72 Sat 31-Aug-19 12:54:13

It's been a beautiful day for a change (still in rainy season) so I got some laundry out including 8, white hand towels all in a pristine line. smile

There's native bush adjacent to my house and just at the moment the Karamu with its bright red berries is not only a delight to look at but delicious to native birds.

So why did the little beggars have to pooh bright red all down my white towels?

Namsnanny Sat 31-Aug-19 14:13:55

Bradfordlass...yes you’re right, and I did enjoy my sojourn zzzzz!!smile
Pushed bedtime bad too far though. Why is it that elicit snoozes in the day are deeply satisfying, but nighttime sleeps are less so?
Tell us that joke, go on...lessismore won’t mind, it’s really a moaning/humorous thread...maybe a moamorous or a humoaning thread??!!😉

merlotgran Sat 31-Aug-19 15:00:23

Grrrr! That flippin' woman who owns our village shop has got up my nose again.

I was the only customer in the shop. I went to get some cash from the post office bit and she walked straight past me, no eye contact, no greeting and out through the door leaving me standing there.

I called out to the woman in the back if there was anyone serving?

No reply.

Her ladyship finally wandered back in having been nattering to a delivery man, walked behind the PO counter and just said, 'Yeah?'

Is it any wonder I rarely go in there? angry

Her husband, on the other hand, is an absolute sweetie.

BradfordLass72 Sun 01-Sep-19 02:04:03

Namsnanny Why is it that elicit snoozes in the day are deeply satisfying, but nighttime sleeps are less so?

Simply because you DO have a zizzzz during the day. Battle on, go to bed as late as poss and you'll sleep like the proverbial...

'humoaning' is a great word. smile
I'll send you the joke by PM. It's not risque but what my Dad used to call 'a shaggy dog story' = a bit long and would probably bore people.

merlotgran How rude! Make sure you fart next time you're in the shop - or maybe that's why she walks out when you enter?

Mealybug Sun 01-Sep-19 02:53:12

I lost my little 12 year old dog three weeks ago through a ruptured gall bladder. Some know it all on here said she pitied my grandson having me as his Nanna etc over something she got the wrong end of the stick with and got on her high horse. Hubby has dementia and I'm his full time carer but apart from all that life is still s*

DanniRae Sun 01-Sep-19 07:21:39

Oh dear Mealybug how sad to hear about your little dog. There are some awful people on here, aren't there? I just feel sorry for them - they must have such miserable lives.

So take no notice of the nasty ones because most of us are nice smile
Take care,
Best Wishes, Danni x

Marydoll Sun 01-Sep-19 07:50:07

Mealybug, Danni is correct, there are more nice people on here than nasty ones.
I'm sorry you are so upset, people can be quite cruel, but we aren't all like that. flowers

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sep-19 20:36:49

Someone told me they're going away for a few days next week.
When I said how lovely it sounded, she said she'd see if there were any more places available.

What do people think I do with my boy?
Shove him in a cupboard so I can swan off?

It really gets on my wick!

blondenana Sun 01-Sep-19 21:53:45

My hair is falling out, my dog has died suddenly [which is the worst of my moans]and my cat has a bad stomach, and my bedroom TV remote has dissappeard into thin air, searched in every nook and cranny, and even in the bed and pillowcases

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sep-19 22:29:57

Oh I'm sorry about your dog (and your cat, your hair and your remote, too, obviously)

Anniebach Sun 01-Sep-19 22:34:53

Gardeners don’t like me, another hasn’t turned up today it’s
not because of my garden they haven’t seen it, must be me

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sep-19 22:38:30

A lot of trades people seem to not turn up, Annie.

It's infuriating!

It happens to me all the time; I think it's because I haven't got thousands to spend.

Anniebach Sun 01-Sep-19 22:44:21

Think this was was number 5 MissAdventure , I even said I would buy a weed burner because he didn’t have one and I won’t have weed killer in my garden

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sep-19 22:48:21

It's so disappointing, isn't it?

You make plans in your mind about what you'd like done, and start to wonder about other little bits and bobs to ask them about.. then... nothing!

BradfordLass72 Sun 01-Sep-19 23:54:03

Mealybug and Blondenana - how awful, I'm so sorry you're both going through bad times.
They WILL pass.
They always do. flowers flowers flowers flowers

janipat Mon 02-Sep-19 00:02:54

blondenana I can really sympathise with the hair situation, mine never came back properly after chemo ( they don't tell you that can happen!) Male pattern baldness makes for some inventive hairstyles trying to conceal bald patches
as I refuse to wear a wig anymore. God only knows how I'll cope at son's wedding next year!!

BradfordLass72 Mon 02-Sep-19 02:51:01

I know it's not the same janipat but when I was bald, I'd previously made myself some little embroidered pill-box shaped hats.

Many people have asked me since where I bought them or even if I could make one for them but I doubt my eyes could manage it now.

I like the unusual so if you do too, Google 'ethnic pillbox hats' - there are some very pretty ones out there.

janipat Mon 02-Sep-19 08:59:11

BradfordLass72 thanks for that suggestion, I'll google smile

MissAdventure Mon 02-Sep-19 09:46:11

Well, I unexpectedly had a day off today. smile

Now I'm unexpectedly working sad

grannysyb Mon 02-Sep-19 10:58:56

Cystitis kept me up half the night! Got a drs appointment and now on antibiotics, which is good as we go away next week .

BradfordLass72 Mon 02-Sep-19 21:51:56

When you've finished your antibiotics, please start taking acidophilus bifidus capsules to renew all the good bacteria they will have killed, otherwise your next problem could be intestinal.

A-B is now known to be wonderful for IBS sufferers as well.

As an ex-cystitis sufferer I can also recommend good quality, plain A-B yoghurt, straight from the fridge, as an application to the genital area. It's very soothing.
Just smear a little onto a tissue and pop it against the burning place and leave it.

And drink plenty of water. Dehydration is a big factor in contracting UTIs and their reoccurance.

Wherever possible go without knickers and avoid nylon ones if you can.

Then have some Cranberry capsules or juice handy to take at the very first sign of any further UTI.

SparklyGrandma Mon 02-Sep-19 23:21:17

Plenty of water is good. I am drinking a lot of iced water to try and prevent infection, plus to feel full up and loose weight...

Ah, moaning thread...summer is on the way out here, jumpers on, no more airy sandals, heating on until April 😳

MissAdventure Mon 02-Sep-19 23:29:09

The heartburn express has rolled into town here.

I'm awash with acid.

Probably because I haven't taken my prescribed pills for 6 years awhile.

BradfordLass72 Tue 03-Sep-19 23:06:19


I posted recently about Slippery Elm capsules and although some had their doubts, it's never failed me on the occasions I've had heartburn.

Prescribed drugs have a history of doing me in, sometimes quite severely, so even my doctor, who actually gave me a pack of magnesium rather than a drug for RLS, agrees that if I can solve a problem with alternative medication I should try that first.

Strange that we now call what used to be mainstream remedies, 'alternative' when it is actually the pharmaceutical industry who were the newcomers.

Oh, sorry, this was supposed to be a tongue-in-cheek moan wasn't it.
Well here goes: it's 10am, I'm still in my nightie because I coloured my hair green at 7am and I'm waiting for it to 'set' before I can have my morning shower.

That actually takes only 20 mins, so why am I still déshabillé at my screen?

Because once I start reading GN threads I can't bloomingwell stop!!


notanan2 Tue 03-Sep-19 23:40:05

My bedroom wall paper ever so slightly doesnt match!

It is lined up properly but one panel is slightly more faded than it's neighbour making it a slightly different shade

I hate the missmatch its all I see
But I love the pattern and had searched everywhere for one like that.
I cant get it redone as the paper is discontinued.

So I'm stuck with it now I guess, and the miss match irks me daily.

GagaJo Tue 03-Sep-19 23:51:08

Specific to some (not all!) GN members. Who seem to be stuck in the past, to totally lack empathy for others who live lives or have experiences different to themselves and who perpetually sit in bloody judgement of others! Why, I have no idea.

Really ticks me off (I wanted to use a stronger, more offensive phrase but am self censoring!).

MissAdventure Tue 03-Sep-19 23:51:53

Thanks BradfordLass smile

I shall give slippery elm a try, I think.

BradfordLass72 Wed 04-Sep-19 06:46:14


I find 'pipped off' is an acceptable alternative, as in:
'I'm totally pipped off with all this blasted negativity.'

Works for me grin

DanniRae Wed 04-Sep-19 08:11:27

notanan - I feel for you with the mismatched wallpaper. Would it be possible to repaper the wall that has the offending strip with a plain paper that picks up a colour in the original paper, if you see what I mean?
Good Luck!!

Rufus2 Wed 04-Sep-19 11:14:07

Specific to some (not all!) GN members
Why, I have no idea.
GagaJo! Can I hope you're including me out?
I have ideas, but I'm all for a quiet happy life.! grin

GagaJo Wed 04-Sep-19 16:08:21

Haha, Rufus2, I've no idea if you're one of them or not. I find it hard to remember psuedonyms of any, other than the most obnoxious.

Yes, Bradfordlass72, pipped off is indeed a polite alternative!

annsixty Wed 04-Sep-19 16:38:11

I go out most Thursday afternoon with a very good friend.
She kindly picks me up, we go for a coffee and look round the garden centre and then she will take me to Aldi or M&S simply food just for bits.
She does not like being in the house and has a rota of friends she sees weekly.
If she can’t manage one week or I can’t then we pick up the following week.
The last two weeks her Wednesday friend hasn’t been able to make it so she has come out with us, it is happening again tomorrow.
Why am I not invited to do Wednesday with them or Monday with her other friends when it not convenient for her or me.
I can only assume she likes them more than me.
Am I paranoid.?

eazybee Wed 04-Sep-19 17:55:25

Have you experienced 'friends' lecturing you now on what you shouldn't be doing? The type of people who used to display 'This is a no-smoking zone' posters in their houses, and have multiple televisions in their homes, but 'never have time to watch TV'.
For example:
reference to grilling a piece of meat:
oh, you shouldn't be eating beef now
discussing crowded trains :
people should cut down on their journeys, not expect more carriages (this from someone who so far this year has had separate holidays in Corfu, Sicily and France, and I don't think she walked);
replacing a burnt-out 25 year-old Kenwood Chef with an updated version:
you should have things repaired, (where?), not throw them away.

The New Puritans?

granfromafar Wed 04-Sep-19 18:06:53

Only just seen this thread and haven't really got time to read 22 pages but some comments are so hilarious I will make time! Been on day trip with OH and had lovely lunch closely followed by a cream tea. Dont feel like eating for several hours but OH just asked 'What's for tea?'

SparklyGrandma Thu 05-Sep-19 00:19:55

eazybee yes that’s annoying, especially the eat this or eat that brigade.

BradfordLass72 Thu 05-Sep-19 04:02:56

annsixty Am I paranoid
Only if the Monday-Wednesday friends are plotting a coup to oust you from Thursdays. Beware enclaves of whispering older ladies. smile Especially on the Ides of September.

eazybee I serpently have, for the past 60 years at least.

Even complete strangers take it upon themselves to give me 'remedies' (for my own good of course), so I can lose weight and become thin.

The assumption being of course that:
a) I want to.
b) my size, shape and weight are to do only with my choice and consumption of food.
c) it's any of their damned business.

My thin Korean friend, who eats far, far more than me and never puts on an ounce (and we all know them) is quite entitled to eat an icecream as we walk through the park but if I am seen with one it almost causes a riot.

Ye gods! Fat people eating ice creams! Run for the hills! Call out the Diet Police! "Is it any wonder she's fat?" "No wonder the health system is stretched as tight as her knickers."

Nor, apparently, are we allowed cake or fried foods or chocolate; eating at fast food outlets or restaurants, all of which I have been told to eschew by people who have absolutely NO idea of my diet and food preferences.

I often wonder how well it would go down if I walked into their homes and had the cheek to tell them what to eat or

No one seems to the face of massive grin evidence to the contrary.... that it is possible to be fit, fat, active, HAPPY and healthy.

Fortunately, I know better and regard these people who know so much better than I about my body, as cretinous morons with a much greater 'weight problem' than I could ever have.

I'll get me coat.......

MissAdventure Thu 05-Sep-19 13:39:47

20 minutes to do my 'homework' set by the counsellor.
This isn't working for me at all.
In fact, its giving me the hump!

GagaJo Thu 05-Sep-19 14:03:18

Bradfordlass72 AMEN SISTAH!!!! You are preaching to the choir here.

SparklyGrandma Sat 07-Sep-19 22:02:11

Bradfordlass well said... I am a bit curvy 😁 and the comments irritate me but I ignore them. If pushed, I say both of my grandmothers were plump, apple shaped definitely overweight. One lived to age 94 the other to 89.

Boom boom!

GagaJo Sat 07-Sep-19 22:25:58

SparklyGrandma, YES, my granny too. 96 and still ornery.

BradfordLass72 Sun 08-Sep-19 03:41:23

This is one of my grandmothers - she was a farmer/farmer's wife and extremely hard-working and active because her husband was not a well man.

If she hadn't ploughed and harvested (with shire horses), they would have lost the farm.

This was the lady I've mentioned before who also ran the farm cafe at weekends and holidays. The farm was on a lane popular with country ramblers and on a direct route between beauty spots.

I'm told they could serve 100-200 teas a day in high summer and grandmother did all the baking for that.

Our farm as it was. It has to be sold when my grandfather was diagnosed with throat cancer. No cure in those days. He died in 1947.

Rufus2 Sun 08-Sep-19 03:52:09

YES, my granny too. 96 and still ornery.
GagaJo; Wow! Has she still got a phone number? wink
I'll bet all the old fellas in her retirement home are frightened stiff come bedtime! Oh dear; double entendres again! Sorry!. shock

SparklyGrandma Tue 10-Sep-19 04:04:22

She looks marvellous Bradfordlass, and GagaJo 96 is a wonderful age to reach....