When I first joined gransnet, I had a response from someone, the topic which escapes me now, which was similar to something I may have heard from the school bully when I was about 15. It really shocked me, I suppose I was so naive to think the forum was sweet ‘ little old ladies’. I told my kids and they just laughed and said “ oh mum, this isn’t real life, people are horrible on these forums, you should try Facebook!” I didn’t give up though, and you’re all right, you get to know the obnoxious ones, and just avoid them. I’ll normally respond to the OP. If this invites a disagreement from someone else, I’ll maybe go to two more responses, and then leave it. Sometimes, I just enjoy reading the posts without being involved.