Who will he take after?

Gagajo well said.

I have a mixed race daughter AND a mixed race grandchild. And I can say, hand on heart, that NO ONE in my family ever wondered what skin colour either of them were going to come out.

My dad is a bit of a bigot, as is my step mother. And although they may have had that discussion privately, I certainly never heard about it.

Frankly, anyone having that sort of discussion anywhere within earshot of expectant parents doesn't deserve to have a role in the child's life.

WTF difference does it make what skin colour a baby has? They are all beautiful and a wonderful addition to a family.

Peasblossom

I hadn’t quite thought of it like that, but yes, after one blue -eyed blond baby and one brown-eyed brown baby we did have frequent conversations about what number three would look like ?

Absolutely agree with what you are saying here Peasblossom, you have personal experience as do I.
A conversation between a baby's Mum and Dad absolutely fine. However how often do grans on gransnet give advice about not interfering or commenting or the consequences could be catastrophic, practically every time.
I'm not saying it was the Grandparents who asked about Archie's skin colour.

The 3 dots under a post give you an option to put a quote.

We still have a long way to go if a grandmother can't express concern over the wellbeing of her grandchildren for fear of being accused of racism LauraNorder - that must be a hard place to be.

I hope we all, globally, can get to a point where we can discuss the issues around race with open minds and a willingness to understand why we are where we are with it and what needs to change. At the moment it very much feels like the discussion gets shut down too soon and never progresses.

but it did make me think about conversations in my family around an expected baby.
Isn't that the important bit, geekesse? Private conversations within the family, whatever they may be, shouldn't be aired in public in front of the whole world. Otherwise our homes are no longer our sanctuary and we might feel like big brother is watching us.

Because racism exists and the family are aware of it they expressed concern for future children in a mixed race marriage.
One of our sons married a black Asian woman and I can remember a private conversation prompted by her mother, spoken out of concern, about the life their children might live. Not totally accepted in either a black or white society.
Sadly this has proved to be true, both of my mixed race grandchildren suffer racial abuse in the white society of Perth, Australia. The parents were prepared and deal with it well but they can’t stop it.
Her mother’s honesty and concern helped them to prepare. I wouldn’t have dared to address it because I’m white and would have been afraid to cause offence.

My great aunt asked me if my new boyfriend was 'foreign' which made me chuckle. I said his father was Welsh, and that seemed ok.
She then asked me if he could sing!
Not not really, but our DD2 can.

That was to the original post, not yours LauraNorder.

I need to get into that copy thing.

I hadn’t quite thought of it like that, but yes, after one blue -eyed blond baby and one brown-eyed brown baby we did have frequent conversations about what number three would look like ?

Possible context
Perhaps a member of the royal family, in trying to prepare Harry and Meghan for a future of press coverage, has asked if they are prepared for the fact that the gutter press would make a huge deal of it if their children were black. Possibly this was part of a larger conversation about all the potential nasties that could come their way.
Just a possibility. We can’t know if we’re not told.
Seems very nasty to throw this in without context.

That's two families M's upset now so I wonder who's at fault ?

Aveline I agree, I had no idea until the press made such a fuss.

If M hadn't made such a hoohaa about apparent racism I wouldn't have known she was any particular colour.

They seem to have damned the whole family by not naming and shaming don’t they? Most unfair IMO

Haven’t seen the programme yet so will reserve judgement until I get the context etc but racism has no place these days in any family.

I think that if people are looking for a slight, it comes from anywhere and everywhere. Hypersensitivity means that offence can be taken where none was intended, and which of us hasn’t inadvertently put our foot in it at some point?

I think it's becoming impossible for a 'white' person to make any comment about another whose skin colour isn't white, without being accused of being racist.

I don't believe it happened because M didn't name the person/people who reputedly commented on it. I wish she'd either 'put up' ie name names instead of these claims that cannot be substantiated or refuted, or 'shut up'.