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Age gaps between your children that make younger ones, young Aunts and Uncles.

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MammaTJ Wed 26-Oct-16 21:27:07

There are 10 years between DD1 and DD2 and 11 years between DD1 and DS.

DD1 is 21 and has a 9 month old baby.

We all spent the day together and swapped kids. DD1 took DD2 and DS to do the fun things that take a lot of energy in the pool, then on the fun rides at the funfair, while I splashed around in the baby pool with DGD and then sat on a bench with her, while she slept.

We all had a great time, Auntie and Uncle love their niece and big sis very much, and it is totally reciprocated.

We bumped into friends who have similar, a Grown up DD, with her toddler and baby and and 11 year old who is Auntie to them and a slightly younger Aunt too.

We had a brief chat about it, the fact that being a Gran is wonderful and the younger kids love being Aunties and Uncle. I feel the Grandchildren benefit a lot from having these people not too much older than them, that care about them loads.

I have an Auntie who is 12 years older than me, and now I am nearly 50, we are so very close and I love it.

I wondered if many of you have similar experiences?

Pittcity Wed 26-Oct-16 21:32:42

There is a 16 year gap between DD1 and DS, so he became an uncle aged 10. His eldest nephew is now 5 and loves playing computer games with his uncle.

tanith Wed 26-Oct-16 21:46:59

My son became Uncle to his sister's son at 12 they have always been very close. Last year my GD became Auntie to her sister's son when she was 10 she loves playing with the little ones.

SueDonim Wed 26-Oct-16 21:57:31

I've got 21 years between my oldest and youngest. My youngest became an aunt at 13, when my oldest had his first child in his 30's.

When I was at junior school a boy in my brother's class had a nephew who was older than him. It always puzzled me greatly how an uncle could be younger than his nephew! grin

thatbags Wed 26-Oct-16 22:06:51

Minibags became an auntie at the age of eight. She is DD3 and there are nearly twenty years between her and DD1.

When I was a student I used to babysit for someone whose children from his second marriage were younger than his grandchildren.

vampirequeen Wed 26-Oct-16 22:32:38

DH had two families. His first family are 40, 38 and 35 and his second family are 11 and 8. Although the younger children know their older siblings but they don't have sibling type relationships with them.

Penstemmon Wed 26-Oct-16 23:04:07

My DH is youngest of 4. His sister is 15 yrs older. I am oldest of 3. I am 11 years older than younger brother. DH was 7 when he became an uncle and we tend to socialise more with his sister's children as they are closer to our age. Cousin wise our DDs have no cousin's of similar ages to them. The 8yr gap to the nearest in age,when you only see each other occasionally seems greater!

MammaTJ Wed 26-Oct-16 23:18:17

VampireQueen, that may improve as the young ones get older. Although my (now ex)step daughter, who is 32, and my DD, who is her half sister, do not speak now. The eldest has not even met the 9 month old baby, although my DD has met her niece and nephew. I think it is terribly sad, and if I was parent to both (as their useless Dad is), I would bang their heads together!

Bbnan Wed 26-Oct-16 23:28:27

My eldest sister is 21 years older than me...of 11 we are closet....I was 2 when I became an aunt....sadly we lost my niece at 55 last year....my mum was a granny at 39.... and would have not become a great grandmother until 80....my niece was 41 when she had twin boys

harrigran Thu 27-Oct-16 00:05:01

There are 16 years between my elder and younger sister and my younger sister became an aunt at 12 when I had my first baby.

ninathenana Thu 27-Oct-16 01:16:31

MiL was the youngest of 8 her oldest sibling was 22 yrs older than her so if she and her husband had had children MIL would have been an aunt at a very young age.

grannypiper Thu 27-Oct-16 03:11:45

I became an Auntie at 5 years old, my 2 Nephews were born a couple of months apart.They always called me Auntie never just my name, that must have been very strange to outsiders

HannahLoisLuke Thu 27-Oct-16 09:50:35

My son is uncle to my granddaughter who is two years older than he is.

radicalnan Thu 27-Oct-16 10:01:48

My youngest son complained of being tired when he was about 7 and put it down to the responsibilities of being 'born an uncle'.

mischief Thu 27-Oct-16 10:08:58

My sister is 12.5 years older than me and her first child was born when I was 10, the next at 11 and the third when I was 12 years old. We are all very close although my sister and I had a time when we didn't speak for 10 years, it was her girls that brought us back together, for which I will always be grateful.

My grandmother had 13 children over a period of 21 years which meant (first born) my Uncle Harold's children were born before my Auntie Muriel (last born) was born.

TerriBull Thu 27-Oct-16 10:10:03

My children have half siblings so they became uncles at age 3 and nearly 6. When we told our older son he was going to become an uncle, he replied "I@m not ready for to be an uncle, I'm only 5"

TerriBull Thu 27-Oct-16 10:10:59

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Worlass Thu 27-Oct-16 10:11:00

I am the eldest of five kids. My youngest sister was born when my eldest daughter was four months old. They were very close when young, but have not seen each other for years now.

Greyduster Thu 27-Oct-16 10:20:49

My sisters were adults and married when I was born late to my mother. I am just five years older than my eldest nephew and eight years older than my eldest niece. I am glad to say that neither of them have ever called me "auntie"!

TerriBull Thu 27-Oct-16 10:22:07

Mick Jagger's dynasty is quite confusing, he's going to be a father again soon and that child will presumably be a great uncle/aunt to his great grandchild, I think confused

Gaggi3 Thu 27-Oct-16 10:33:01

My first niece was born when I was 5. Another niece, 10 years younger than me, once asked my sister who I was, as she couldn't see how I fitted into the family! I was the youngest of 5, the others being 16,14,13 and 8 when I was born.

Rosina Thu 27-Oct-16 11:50:53

My Dad came from a big family - he was the youngest but one of thirteen. His elder sisters were married young and producing their own families before my Dad was born - hence he had several nieces and nephews older than him, and a nephew of the same age and name who was in the same regiment in WW2 - very confusing!

chrissyh Thu 27-Oct-16 13:33:33

There was 21 years between my DH's eldest and youngest sisters so my youngest DSiL became an auntie at 2. They were definitely more like sister and brother.

DotMH1901 Thu 27-Oct-16 13:37:06

My father had been married before and divorced. He had a daughter born in 1934. After he married my Mum in 1946 he had three more children, my older sister was born in 1952 and our half sister got married in 1954. She had her first child, a daughter, in the Summer of 1955 just before I was born in the August of 1955 - so my sister was an Auntie aged just two years, our half sister went on to have two more children after I was born so I too became an Auntie at a very young age. I have a similar thing on my late husband's family side - he was an unexpected late baby born in 1952 and my sisters in law were born in 1941 and 1943, his first nephew was born in 1962, when he was ten years old. His youngest nephew was born in 1967. I have always felt much more like their older sister (I was 7 in 1962 and 12 in 1967), especially once they got married and I soon became a gt-aunt. I became a Gt gt Aunt at 59 when my eldest gt niece had her first baby. My daughter is more in the age group of my gt nieces rather than her own older cousins!

Funnygran Thu 27-Oct-16 14:21:09

My DH is the third of six children. The eldest is 14 years older than the youngest and two of her grandchildren are older than her youngest brother's children. MIL is still alive and now has more great grandchildren than grandchildren. Unsurprisingly she sometimes gets confused about who we are talking about ?