A family that we are close to have asked us for advice as they want an indepent view point. I would be very interested to hear your views.
Two care homes have been shortlisted. One is £1600 per week the other is £1200. Both offer a very high standard of care.
The son believes that the mum will not benefit from the extra luxuries at the more expensive home. She is unable to communicate, eats very simple food, does not drink, does not like to be touched. So the Spa and gym would be unused. She will not join any activities. He is also concerned that the mum is only 80 and could be in the home a long time. Grandparents lived well into their 90s. There is also the possibly, a few years down the line,Dad may need a care home and he should have the same level of care as his wife.
The daughters argument for the more expensive home . When her mum was well she enjoyed quite a luxurious life style. She thinks the ambience of the more luxurious home would suit her mum better. The home has fewer resident and that is another plus factor. If the time comes for the dad to go into care, their flat can be sold to pay for it.
The husband wants to do the very best for his but is not sure if their saving will be enough for the whole of her life?
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