I wonder if you wise people could help me make a decision about what I should do next please. I will try to be succinct but it's a long story. I am 60 with poor mobility and my husband of 40 years died just before christmas 2018. He had been ill with stage 4 cancer for 7 years and whilst I had a few weeks of grief it all seemed to pass very quickly. I spent the first 3 months emptying our large house of everything I could and putting my house on the market which we had been planning for 13 years! I have 3 grown up sons all of whom are wonderful in their different ways. Now the crux of the matter is that I sold the house in 3 days! Not what I was expecting at all. I have found a small bungalow to move to but my heart isn't really in it, it's an okay house in an okay place near to where I am now. I must say at this stage that apart from my son who lives locally I have no friends at all and do not go out except to doctors. My husband didn't like people and all the friends I had as a mum have moved away. My youngest son lives about 1/2 hour away from me, in an area I don't know. He has a lovely wife and 2 sons aged 6 and 2 and we get on really well. The plan was for me to buy a house in their area and we would all move in together, but I really don't know what to do. Live on my own with my 2 cats that I recently got and struggle physically but have peace and quiet and control of my life or move in with son and have support but lose autonomy. His oldest child is autistic but very high functioning and we get on really well and his other child is just a funny delight. I could help with child care to a limited degree, at the minute my son is a stay at home dad but is looking to go back to work so I could help there. Moving in together will also take up all my house sale moneyas the area is very expensive and just leave me a little capital whereas if I moved to the bungalow it would give me a nice lump sum. My son is living in a cramped 2 bed flat and I would like to give the boys some garden and space to run about in. I am flipping backwards and forwards deciding one thing and another but iI need to make my mind up as the legal process has sstarted on buying the bungalow. I really feel like pulling out of it all but with my sons saying the house is too much maintainence and I need a property without stairs and having to climb into the bath for a shower I really have no choice. What would you all suggest? Thanks for reading the long post much appreciated.
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